In light of the other thread going about the 15 year old being forced to pay CS I'm curious as what others think in regards to a victim being forced to pay CS? I am not talking statutory rape here, I am talking any rape, including spousal rape.
As a victim of spousal rape with my ex and catching the herpes virus which now impacts me both financially and health wise for the rest of my life I am dead against a victim being forced to pay under any circumstances. I could not imagine if I had to pay him each month for something that I did not want and tried to fight him off, it was his choice to do this to me and as a result I am out of pocket, but he went into with full knowledge that what he did put me at risk.
Now this did not result in a baby but if the positions where reversed and a male was forced into sex which resulted in a baby, do the rights of the baby really come into play? Or do the rights of a victim overrule?
Personally I think a rape charge and having that baby put into care is the best option, not a reminder of how the victim was violated and then have it be financial burdened for the next 18 years.
Sorry if this doesn't make sense, I'm sick as a dog today, but interested to see what others think?
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09-04-2012 09:40 #1
SPIN OFF: Should rape victims be forced to pay CS?
09-04-2012 09:43 #2
I don't think rape victims should have to pay child support.
I don't think the rapist has the right to parent the child
09-04-2012 09:46 #3
In 99% of cases I would say no. There are some instances though where the rape victim wants a part in the childs life and those cases are probably the only examples where a yes would be warranted. The money should be for the child, not the rapist.
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09-04-2012 09:54 #4
I don't have a blanket answer, it would depend on circumstances etc but I think there does need to be shift in attitudes towards child support from the view of 'punishing' or taking away from the parent paying cs to a view of support for a child.
09-04-2012 09:57 #5
Interestingly, while I was reading online about the case in the other thread I stumbled upon this articleVictim Ordered to Pay Attacker Spousal Support
Courtesy Crystal Harris
Victim Ordered to Pay Attacker Spousal Support
By CHRISTINA CARONApril 5, 2012
She was forced to have sex with him, and now she's being forced to pay his bills.
Crystal Harris of Carlsbad, Calif., had been financially supporting her unemployed, abusive husband Shawn Harris for years. But after he sexually assaulted her in 2008, she took him to court.
The jury heard a damning audiotape of the attack secretly recorded by Crystal Harris, and her husband was convicted of forced oral copulation.
Even so, in 2010, the year their divorce became finalized, he requested spousal support. The judge awarded him $1,000 a month, and also asked Crystal Harris to pay $47,000 of her ex-husband's legal fees from the divorce proceedings.
And op miso sorry that happened to you.
09-04-2012 11:09 #6
On one hand I think absolutely not... but then a child resulting from rape requires no less financial support than one who was the result of a consensual partnership, so I'm not exactly sure.
I do agree that a child should not be raised by a rapist though, and would therefore think if the law agreed, there'd be no need for a rape victim to pay child support, as that child would either be in their care or adopted out.
09-04-2012 11:15 #7Senior Member
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Perhaps the baby should automatically be placed with the victim (if that's what the victim wants) just as children are automatically placed with the accused of abuse in some states in the US?
I agree with PPs, rapists would not make appropriate parents.
09-04-2012 11:19 #8
IMO, when two consenting adults have sex, they're not only consenting to the sex, but the consequences.
When someone is raped- statutory or otherwise- their consent for the sex and all subsequent consequences associated with sex is removed, and therefore, they're not responsible for child support, ect.
If the victim wanted the child in their life or have custody of their child, then that is their choice, but it shouldn't be forced upon them. How terribly traumatic for them if it is.
The rapist, IMO, should not have any right to custody of the child.
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also think that in the other case being discussed if we start saying 'oh, if he'd (the victim) worn a condom there would be no baby' sets a dangerous precedent for a rapist to use a condom and then claim it was consentual, since protection was used.
09-04-2012 11:36 #10
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