Cul de sac or not, it's still a road and there's no way in the world I would let my child play on it. We are lucky we live on 5 acres so have plenty of space for playing but DS knows that under no circumstances is he to go near the road. Bad things happen all the time and nobody ever expects that it will happen to them.
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09-04-2012 06:32 #41
09-04-2012 06:56 #42-
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I agree with shoopuf.
Sounds like the kids in this story are turds and the parents are irresponsible.
09-04-2012 07:02 #43
Siege.. I understand your frustration with the situation. It's about manners and respect.
I live in a gated complex mostly full of retired couples and some younger like us who own. It's pretty new with several properties unsold. There is a rule that children are not allowed to ride bikes/scooters in the complex (this is health and safety reasons) unless they are riding them out of the complex. Just outside our gate is a wonderful park and very quiet road. And we often get children riding bikes/scooters outside in our little street even though it's clear in the body corporate don't do it. The kids squeal and scream and are very noisy. One day I went outside and told the father very politely it's against the rules (a letter had just arrived to all units reminding of the rule) and his answer was 'I guess you don't have children'. He was so rude and yet knew the rules. No respect from him or his children. I don't know why they live here when they know the rules. And yet there is another lovely family who lives here with two young girls (ages about 12 and 8). They don't disrespect the rules and often come and knock on my door to ask if they can play with my dog and I send them off to take her for a walk, they've done this nearly everyday of the holidays.
Anyway long winded post, but I just want to say that the lack of manners and respect for other people living around them is the problem. You are well within your rights to be frustrated. I would be.
09-04-2012 07:50 #44
Tamtam, we have the same rule in our complex and I'm glad the families flout it.
The kids seem to know everyone's names and help the elderly in the complex unload their groceries, greet them by name, play with their pets... it's instilled a sense of community here that we really value. My 2yo son will come out for a walk around the block and the kids call out to him, he thinks they're great and waves to them all.
Either way, it's not your job to remind the father, he would've got the letter too and if his kids having fun out the front of their home is so awful for you then maybe you should let the complex manager know rather than being the 'playing outside police'.
09-04-2012 07:59 #45
Oh and OP if you had yelled at my kids, rather than approached me about the issue in a calm, constructive way I probably would've been a bit irrational and irate with you too.
I think you need to mend that bridge. They're your neighbours, you have to see them every day.
09-04-2012 08:02 #46
I appreciate your point but they weren't playing outside their home. In fact their home is a street away and they were playing right under our balcony. There's perfectly good play areas outside our complex. The rules are there for everyone's enjoyment and comfort. We bought here because of it. If the children hurt themselves on common property it can become a lawsuit for the body corporate as well.
Whilst I appreciate your point of view, the rules are rules and people should follow them or move where is more appropriate. Also, if that is the rule people should respect it and abide by it. I abide by the body corporate rules because it shows respect for everyone in the community.
Anyway, I was simply backing up the original poster and expressing that I understand her frustrations. Not to cause backlash because of my experiences.
09-04-2012 08:04 #47-
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Ugh. I am very glad I don't live in areas where children playing is against the rules. How sad. And telling them off for making noise. Even sadder. Some of these posts are very bleak. Calling children feral for playing without shoes on. Assuming the parents are feral. Calling the children turds. FFS just talk to the parents and set some boundaries. Plus, if the cul-de-sac knows there's kids on the street then why don't the cars slow down? Why park your precious Val on the street? Or do children need to fit solely into an adult world these days? why don't we just lock them inside and stuck them on a gaming console and never see them again.
09-04-2012 08:11 #48
All good children should be neither seen nor heard these days AB.
09-04-2012 08:13 #49
I've been waiting for this reactions. Yes ops car is her responsibility but that's not her whinge . She is concerned about the lack of respect, lack of supervision. The world is too busy of a place these days even in a cul de sac to assume your kids will be ok . It's not like the old days where you could run around safely.
People only think of "me" on the road and won't slow down etc. times have changed as sad as it is.
09-04-2012 08:23 #50
I live in a culda sac and I'm. Currently pregnant with my first . We have kids 2 doors down that are constantly on the road don't move when turn down the street and leave stuff in the middle of the road. I personally wont let my child play out the front that's why we have a backyard my sister has four Kidds and noways would they be aloud to play near the road accidents happen so quickly I also live in the town were the 6 year old girl was abducted and sexually abused so even tho its a small chance of it happening. It still does happen. If the children don't have any respect for other ppls property now what will they be like when there 16. Approaching the parents may appear to be right way to do things but i know the ppl down the road from me are not approachable ppl and I wouldn't be game to say anything. So at the end of the day your left. Between a rock and a hard place. The concern for the children is clearly obviouse and I do not think your being judgemental
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