I'm not currently BF, this is more of a question to inform myself of the facts of and when no3 comes along.
Ds1 was BF till 8.5 months.
Ds2 was comp fed, using expressed milk & formula, till 2.5 months... Very difficult still for me to take.
Anyways, feeding either one of them always took over an hour to feed with the b00b. Especially in the first few weeks, I'd feed for 1.5 hours and then have a 2 hour break and then start again. I have no prob with the 2 hour break.
However, my sister and friends who have breastfed have all said that theyd only feed for up to 20 min per side MAX. And generally they'd usually feed for 8 mins off each side, and the kids would be full. This is also the advice that midwives have them, don't fed for longer than 210 mins per side. I notice some parenting books also say similar.
So why did I have to feed my kids for so long? Am I doing the wrong thing? Surely my milk cannot be the only persons that is so different (I often joke o must produce skim milk coz it never looks fatty).
But seriously, I love BF, I want to feed the next one, should I try the whole 8 mins on each side thing? What did u do??
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04-04-2012 21:03 #1Senior Member
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A breastfeeding question..
04-04-2012 21:07 #2Senior Member
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On top of that,my nipples get so so big that they don't fit into a newborns mouth.
Other than a nipple shield, is there anything else that can help with attachment?
04-04-2012 21:08 #3
I started with the whole 20 minute thing, but found it wasn't working for me. I just fed on demand, DD would let me know when she was full - if it was more than 20mins... Oh well!
Seriously - do what works for you & bubs and what feels right. Just cause the books say it, doesn't mean it's right.
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04-04-2012 21:14 #4
The 20 minutes per side thing is really a kind of old-fashioned one.
Your milk changes throughout the feed, starting off with the watery thirst-quenching milk and ending with the rich creamy filling milk, so the longer your babe feeds on one side, the better
Also, demand feeding is the best way for your body to adjust your milk supply to fit your babies needs
04-04-2012 21:16 #5
I should update that thread about what makes me green with envy.
I spent HOURS feeding my DD, she did nothing but feed for the first 3 months of her life. A four hour feed was normal, if she was awake, she wanted to be attached. The spectrum of 'normal' for newborns and breastfeeding is vast. Newborns should be demand fed so they will dictate how often and how long a feed lasts I'm afraid! I would be very wary of any MW or any text book that promotes timed feeding.
04-04-2012 21:21 #6
I fed my 2nd non stop, seriously sat on my @rse for 12 months constantly feeding the child!!! When I had DD3 I could believe how quickly and efficiently she fed!! E.V.E.R.Y bub is DIFFERENT!!!!! Don't compare you or your bub to anyone else!!! My SIL tried the the stopping feeds at 20min, her bub went into failure to thrive because she didn't listen to her baby and forgot the main person to listen to! Her bub! With 'bigger' boobs I find I still hold them away so my bubs don't suffocate, still do this past the new born stage, I just found what worked...
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04-04-2012 22:12 #8Senior Member
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yep, i had a very full oversupply of milk, a ridiculously strong reflex.
My son put on, on average a kg a month for the first 6 months (chubba lol) exclusive breastfeeding.
And after about 3 weeks, i emailed the ABA for advice and from then only fed him 1 side per feed til after 16-18 months when he might have had both sides.
But even with my clearly plentiful milk supply, he would feed for what seemed like an eternity! Hours at a time I'm sure, especially in the evenings/at night.
I just figure some babies feed quicker, he did get more efficient as he got older, but prob until he was 6 months tehy were long long feeds. from 6 to 12 months would get distracted so maybe not feed as long every feed, but would make up for it teh next one!
My advice is be led by your baby, although my son always used to fall asleep on the boob and i had to release it or he'd happily use me as a 24 hour dummy!
04-04-2012 22:26 #9Senior Member
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Great question op, I've often thought the same thing.
During my bf experience with DD i found she would often continue to suck for comfort not hunger and would then throw up her entire feed cause her belly was too full. How do I know if my bub is still hungry or just using my boob as a dummy?
I was always really confused about how long to feed for?
I also had a nurse yell at me for only giving DD one boob per feed at 4 weeks old, so from then on gave her both boobs and she would throw up cause I had soooo much milk?
Sorry for butting in on the thread, I'm just really nervous about BFing 2nd time round. First time was sh!tty
04-04-2012 22:28 #10
I've breastfed 3 kids now and the best thing was to listen and respond to the babies needs, the baby doesn't know how long he/she has been feeding for they just know when they are full they can stop drinking. With attachment it doesn't matter how big your nipples are just make sure bubs bottom lip attaches first and that mostly the bottom part of the areola and the nipple is in bubs mouth and if it hurts take the baby off and start again, if there's pain in the beginning of the feed and you are feeding for an hour or more your going to damage your nipples.
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