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What makes you so confident or not so confident?
Do you ever fake confidence?
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02-04-2012 21:48 #1
02-04-2012 22:03 #2-
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Overall I feel I'm quite confident, though I have days where I just don't feel it, lol.
No idea what makes me confident, but I think being my own person is a big thing. When I stood up for myself and my family against my parents - that was a massive confidence boost. Having made so many friends through DDs kindy where they all genuinely want to know me, and actually care, that's a bit of a confidence boost. When DF talks to people about our future plans, that's a massive confidence boost. Studying, loving who I am, seeing the gorgeous people my two girls are growing into.
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02-04-2012 22:09 #3
Everyone tells me I am extremely confident, I have always been outgoing, loved public speaking and drama at school and still do auctioneering occasionally , I'm always asked to do toasts/speeches at weddings/functions
I definitely think as you get older you get more confident, the older I get the less I care about what anyone thinks!
I'm not sure if it's something my parents did or not , my brother is the same as me but my sister is the quiet one ( people say its because she couldn't compete with the 2 of us!)
Dad was very big on praise, everyone is good at something speeches as we were growing up plus they were our biggest supporters at sport/drama and school stuff etc
I always say to my nieces when they need help with public speaking etc - what's the worst thing that can happen? You forget a line/word who cares, most of the people watching are too envious that they do not have the courage to get up and do it !
OP - do you think you need to be more confident?
03-04-2012 00:27 #4
I think maybe it's a natural trait. I've always been confident in approaching others.
In work situations I kind of 'fake' it though. I don't really feel like networking at every conference I go to, but I 'fake it till I make it' and have made some very valuable connections that way. It definitely works. A big smile and a firm handshake work wonders!
As I get older I get better at reading others - I can fit in pretty much anywhere now, just depends whether I feel like it as to whether I'll make the effort or not
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03-04-2012 07:22 #5
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03-04-2012 08:09 #6
I think I have become more confident with age ( I'm mid 30's)
I know who I am and what I want out of life... In comparison to in my 20's I was "lost" in a marriage that I gave myself to and had to find myself when it all fell apart! It was the best thing that ever happened to me!
I think when one is sure about their direction in life and are happy with themselves there is a natural confidence there that a person probably doesn't realise they have!
03-04-2012 09:10 #7
Since becoming a mum.... No, let me rephrase that. Since being diagnosed with PND, I feel so much more stronger and confident as a person. PND has been an absolute blessing for me. I know who I am as a person, I know which direction I'd like to head and I'm happy with myself. I think I am confident but lately I've really been questioning it. I can feel my crap self esteem creeping up on me. Last night I started a course and I felt like a little girl in a classroom. I felt... Tiny and like I wasn't good enough. It was Weird.
03-04-2012 09:14 #8
Very little self confidence
Hate myself, always have
Fake it often
Has definitely improved with age
I am a very confident parent. Having my 2 perfect angels has helped me a lot because I'm finally good at something.
I still suck at every other aspect of my life though.
03-04-2012 09:19 #9
Dont be so hard on yourself Dark Cherry, i think even the most confident person would feel a bit out of their depth when starting something new, i find i set my heart and sights on something, then follow through and find myself thinking holy crap i cant do this, im not worthy or something along those lines... it takes a bit of time to adjust to a new situation, figure everyone out and where everyones at before we feel like we can ' fit in' and power on.
Does any of that make sense?
03-04-2012 09:41 #10
I'm great at faking it!
I have confidence with a lot of things but it comes and goes with regards to my looks. But i 'spose that's a pretty common theme among women now isn't it?
I think faking it helps but i wouldn't even call it faking it in some cases. I learned long ago that most people aren't nearly as focussed on how we come across as we ourselves are- people are worried more about themselves. And the solution for me was to change my focus from myself to others. So when i would interact with people it would be more about making the other person feel comfortable and ok about themselves. I found that helped me immensely in terms of feeling more confident in general. I just stopped worrying about whatever it was that was making me feel lousy about myself after that
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