I couldn't find a better place to put this so I hope here is ok.
I need some help with my almost 6yr old DD Alex.
Alex is diagnosed Autistic, and investigating ODD and ADHD.
Alex's father and I are divorced, and have been seperated for over 3.5yrs.
My boyfriend is a very supportive Step dad.
Alex see's her father for 1/2 each school holidays as per court orders. Her father lives 800km away from us, with his partner, step son and baby son.
Yesterday we drove the half way to meet Alex's father at a meeting point (park).
About an hour out from the meeting point Alex started to feel sick, saying 'I'm too sick to go to daddy's'.
When we got to the park she was holding her stomach and felt to sick to play. About a minute before her father arrived, Alex went white as a ghost (even her lips) and looked as though she was about to vomit. I sat next to her just as she seemed to pass out (went all floppy and her eyes went funny). She came to within seconds and then vomited the water she'd just had.
Sitting on the grass with her, she was shaky and warm, and very dusky around the mouth.
Her father turned up and picked her up, walking around watching her step brother play for a little while. Her colour picked up a bit and she laughed at her step brother playing.
We left and about 1/2hr later her father text to say she'd gone pale and vomited again, but since then (i text later last night) she's been absolutly fine.
I'm thinking Alex had a panic/anxiety attack??
I'm waiting on her child psychologist to give me a call back, but given that she's been healthy since yesterday arvo and today, that that's what it is?
What can I do to help her next time she is due to see her father? I talk to her about how much fun it's going to be, seeing her brothers and the easter bunny coming to daddy's etc.
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02-04-2012 09:40 #1
02-04-2012 12:33 #2
hi, I dont have any qualifications, but my thoughts are. acknowledge her feelings. Talk with her about how she seemed to have a mild panic attack, but then she was ok. Let her try to remember what she was thinking before her daddy arrived, and guide her along, past the anxious feelings, past the worry, and onto the happy memories. Dont do anything to encourage the anxiety, but explain to her how it happened, and tell her that she can control what she thinks about. I hope that helps, that is how I would deal with it. Marie.
02-04-2012 12:53 #3
My little dd1 has ASD and did the same thing not long ago when her sister was born- scared me to death.
I took her to gp to rule out Seizure/fitting episode. Apparently quite common for ASD kids to have such episodes due to panic or anxiety, my gp said can happen cause cant self regulate and even maybe if they are a little bit jealous or envious about a sibling it all becomes too much - that's what happened with my dd but maybe check with gp
02-04-2012 12:58 #4
Thankyou SuperGranny, i deffiantly incourage positive thinking, telling her how fun its going to be etc.
Hope01 how bloody scary is it!!!!! I was so ready to call an ambulance. So glad she's fine now but wow, i didnt realise anxiety could cause that big of a reaction. Did you daughter do it again after that?
02-04-2012 13:43 #5
Def a panic attack i think, poor lil muffin, my boys have them too (both asd)
My suggestion would be lots of social stories prior. Can u and fob work together? Ask him if its possible to plan out the activities they will be doing during her stay so u can add them to the social stories, so she has at least some idea of whats going to happen.
Is she good with visuals? Could u get fob to take some pictures of her with her step siblings having a good time, some with him and her, so u can show them to her next time?
We hafto do soooo much prep when we visit relos, i have photos of relos to show them, i ask ahead what will be for the meal, because in order to not freak the heck out they need to know what time we are going, what time we are leaving, who will be there, what will be happening there, what food, what drink, etc..
02-04-2012 13:54 #6
Thanks diamond eyes, she does have a little photo album with pics of her father, step mum, brothers, cousins that live down there etc. I'll deffiantly ask her father next time to tell me what they'll be doing so i can do up a social story.
02-04-2012 17:11 #7
I agree diamond eyes - social stories and visuals are a great way to prepare.
I thought she was going to die on me- it was horrendous. My dd was ghost white also - white lips - it was soooo scary. Apparently panic and anxiety attacks can be eased by breathing slowly into a paper bag. Rescue remedy homeopathic preparation which are dropped under the tongue are meant to help with ASD /ADHD kids also. Nice and natural- I'm going to start trying it as my dd has done it twice now. I hope ur dd is ok
Just wanna say - nice to talk to some other ASD mums
03-04-2012 11:18 #8
Good luck with the meds Hope01, i hope it helps. I hope both our DDs never do it again!!!!
It is nice to talk to ASD mums going through the same things
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