As I've been thinking of returning to work I'm looking at possibly spending 4 days a week in the city where I'll be working and, the other 3 down the coast in my house - I'm looking at the option of sharing with another single Mum with a child close to DS's age.
Looking for advice from anyone who's actually done this (shared with another single parent - is it a good idea or a total nightmare? It's very peaceful and content with just DS and I and the last thing I want is to disrupt that.
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01-04-2012 05:29 #1
Single Parents - have you lived with another single parent?
01-04-2012 07:30 #2
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01-04-2012 12:11 #3
I am contemplating doing it. I put up an ad and had 2 replies. I spoke with 1 mum and while we may have been friends her parenting style was different to mine. She smacked her children, I don't, she lived a vegetarian lifestyle-I don't, she smoked outside- I didn't want that around my children and she had a dog which my son would have hated. She had a little one younger than ds who sounds very spirited and I know my ds would be really upset if his lego was broken up or her younger one wanted a lot of his attention.
I would consider it if I found the right match and our home worked for both parties.
01-04-2012 12:25 #4
Currently doing it and really not enjoying it at all. Our boys are different ages and her son is very challenging. Doesnt help she is not helpful at all. Feels like i have 3 children instead of just the 1.
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01-04-2012 12:45 #5
Yes this is what I was thinking about..... it sounds good in theory but in practice, I think that unless you do have your own living areas as you did wonkey donkey, then really, it won't work....
DS have our little routines and ways, and when we have our quiet time, we want it quiet, and he understands what I expect and what is acceptable, but if there's another child who does something that I normally wouldn't allow, DS is likely to pick up habits and likewise for the other parent/child.... I would stress about this.
I will give this more thought, I was only thinking relatively short-term anyway and 4 days per week, which would only really be evenings as I'll be working and coming home on my off days. Might be better to share with a non-parent or a parent who has their child only part of the time.
For the PP who is currently in this situation, gosh I feel for you... that's got to be tough
01-04-2012 13:16 #6
i did once. i hav 2 kids she had 1, so 5 of us in the house, we split the rent evenly (rent was 330 a week, so we paid 65 per person n i just paid the extra 5 bucks) it worked to begin with..... until she broke a serious house rule and i kicked her out. because i kicked her out she rang dcp and made up crap about me. dcp knew it was crap but had 2 investigate anyways and in return i got free daycare for 6 months from dcp lol. guess her "revenge" didnt work as well as she hoped. but, ive learnt my lesson... never again.....
03-04-2012 21:17 #7
I did it didn't end well at all.the only other person I could share with would be my BFF n her girls. Anyone else I'd prob lose it
03-04-2012 22:21 #8
I've done it too actually with the same person as jagamoe lol probably should have learnt from her it didn't work for me I'm alot happier living alone and not having anybody else to rely for rent/bills or anything else never again for me
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05-04-2012 10:07 #9
I tried this for a while, just like sharing with anyone it's really important that you have your own space, i loved having other people in the house made it more like a home
29-12-2012 06:33 #10Junior Member
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I shared with one person before I had kids (she had one child; we shared from when the child was approx 18months-4) and it worked well for us. We shared household and childcare duties.
I shared with another person from when my daughter was 6 months old, and she had a son (between 2-4 years from when we started living there until she moved away). It worked well again; we were friends before moving in and we shared parenting ideals.
I want to share again; in January I'll be moving to Aspley area for my daughter to start Prep. I work in Zillmere (full time) and would love to find someone else to share with - so if anyone's interested...? lol
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