Last night DH and I had a date night for the first time in over a year, DD has just turned 3. I don't have alot of babysitters as options and my little sister who is 16 offered to mind our lil girl. Before we left I fed her dinner and put out her pajamas, teddy and dummy for bed so all my sister had to do was bath her and put her to bed. I was really worried and had a hard time relaxing whilst out, my DH reassured me that most babysitters are about 16 and my sister will be fine. I rang her a couple of times and we were only gone for 3 hours. When we got home my sister said everything wen't well and DD went to bed on time etc.,. Am i silly for worrying? Would you have left your 3 year old in the care of a 16 year old? My sister is quite mature for her age and is really good with my daughter I just worry.
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26-03-2012 08:18 #1Senior Member
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Would you leave you child in the care of a 16 year old?
26-03-2012 09:06 #2
I used to babysit when I was 16, but I was a very level headed, mature 16 year old, so if I were to have a 16 year old babysit, I would have to know her inside and out (such as a sister or friend's daughter-something like that) and it would really depend on her maturity etc.
As for your scenario, yes, I would have left my 3 year old in the care of my sister, especially being that you did most of work beforehand and it was only for 3 hours. I probably would have called once though, not just to check on my child's well being, but to see how my sisiter was faring as well.
26-03-2012 09:06 #3
Depends on the 16yo. Some 16yos are very responsible, while others wouldn't have a clue how to watch out for a young child. My niece has just turned 18 but she's a great kid, loves my girls and I would trust her to look after them any time.
I just don't trust many people to look after my kids, there are probably 3 people on the whole planet and two of them live the far side of it from here! Its natural to worry when you leave your kids i think, at least it is for me.
I think maybe you just need to practice leaving your DD for another date night hun You deserve a little bit of time to yourself, and date nights are essential for connecting with your DH. Sounds like your lil sis did a great job, so I'd ask her to do it again, you will prob find you are a bit less anxious next time
26-03-2012 09:11 #4
I agree, it depends on the babysitter. I started babysitting when I was 13
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26-03-2012 09:11 #5Senior Member
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i think because its your sister,she is family, she would genuinely love and care about your child and therefore do the best job she can. of she is mature i think u have nothing to worry about.
its not really the same as getting the 16yo from across the street iykwim?
i was a mother at 16 and i managed just fine
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26-03-2012 09:18 #6
Well, my daughter was still 14 and I was getting her to watch the kids sometimes. A friend of mine even paid her to watch her kids too. She's 15 now and I still get her to watch the kids.
Having said that, my daughter is an exceptionally responsible mature teenager, perhaps if she wasn't I'd feel differently.
26-03-2012 09:18 #7Senior Member
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I had my son 3 months before I turned 16. I think if the babysitter has common sense and is mature there isnt much of an issue. Lots of teens babysit younger siblings. My sister is 9 yrs younger than me and I grew up helping take care of her. I would have to reaaaly trust them though & know them well. When my sister was 9 I let her 'babysit' my ds, but my dad was there to help. I was surprised that we were gone for about 2.5 hours and she changed him, played with him fed his dinner & put him to bed with a little help from dad. (i was expecting her to get bored after a hour and tell my dad to watch him lol).
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26-03-2012 09:19 #8
I was nannying at 16.
It's the maturity of the person, not their age that matters IMO.
26-03-2012 09:30 #9
Yep. We do all the time. She's only 13 as well. We're very comfortable with it. Our youngest 2 are already in bed though. We have a family friend with 3 teenagers plus SS who all have a movie night while we go out. Works great! They are awesome kids.
26-03-2012 09:32 #10
My sister is 10 years older than me and started her family when I was 12. I was babysitting from the age of 14 and had no problems. The kids knew and loved me (still do now God bless 'Em :P) and I knew them well enough to know all their little quirks and sayings. I think it was a great option for both my sister and I. She got a break and I got to bond with my niece and nephew..win win!
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