where there were guys drinking would you let her go out looking like a $|^+?
I've wanted to post this question since the DADD thread, note it's not a question I came up with, something I've seen on FB..
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16-03-2012 19:05 #1
If you had a daughter and she was going out to a party...
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16-03-2012 19:33 #2
16-03-2012 19:36 #3
First time I've seen it. I think its very well put. If only everyone could/would understand.
16-03-2012 19:39 #4
That is fantastic!
16-03-2012 19:41 #5
As a mum of a now adult dd, there is now way I would allow/allowed my teen dd to leave the house like a Sl*t anytime no matter where she was going. We taught her to dress in a manner that wasn't Sl*ty. We taught her to respect herself. To have pride in herself.
Now of course we have no say in what she wears as a adult. She still choose to dress in a respectful way.
I have two pre teen dd and we already teaching them to have pride and respect themselves.
Edited to add we are teaching our sons that no matter what a girl wears/ how drunk she is that he can NOT touch her in any way unless she consents. And that being drunk means she can't consent. We are teaching them to respect not only the girls but themselves.
In No way am I saying that how you dress ever gives a man the right to do anything to you.
Last edited by LoveLivesHere; 16-03-2012 at 19:45.
16-03-2012 19:43 #6
I agree with that loving6!
I'm teaching DD she is worth more than her appearance
16-03-2012 19:45 #7
I can't read the attachment text on my phone, what does it say?
16-03-2012 19:47 #8
The problem with that is that it's not women that dress like sl*ts that get raped. Women wearing track suits get raped Women wearing ankle length skirts and polo necks get raped. Women wearing jeans get raped. Women wearing hijabs get raped.
The problem with this sl*t shaming culture is that it excuses the rapist - as much as everyone says the victim isn't to blame, it's in the cultural conciousness that 'good girls' don't get raped. So if you were raped, you were bad, right? You must have done something. You must have worn something wrong or said something. You must have been out too late. You must have talked to him in the wrong way. You must have made him want to.
It's a line of thought that simply needs to end.
Rapists rape. Regardless of what the victim does, wears or says.
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16-03-2012 19:54 #9
I saw the thread title and came in ready to have a rant about victim blaming and expecting to be shouted down. What a pleasant surprise to read the OP in full
16-03-2012 19:55 #10
I have never taught my dd's that good girls don't get raped or that if you were raped that you where bad. That is just crazy thinking.
I have talked them about my experience and that i was wearing my school sports uniform at the time.
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