i brought a book the other day called - Instinctive parenting, trusting ourselves to raise good children written by Ada calhoun - im loving it and im definately getting my moneys worth out of it. Basically it says, dont take to heart everything your read or hear on how to raise your children, not every child/parent/care giver is the same, therefore something that works for one family may not work for another. Anyway my point of this is that there is so much judging and belittling of other parents and there choices on this site, and everywhere really. This book is teaching me not to judge others, as long as a child has shelter (whether it be a big house, a small unit or a tent in the back yard!!!!), Food, and love then who are we to judge how good a job that parent is doing??? Really, just because i co-slept, only breastfed for a month, didnt breast feed at all, choose to let my kids watch t.v, choose not to circumsise, etc etc etc - how does that affect YOU personally?? whats that it doesnt?? Really?? well then why do you feel the need to comment negatively on my parenting? why do you need to judge me? just because i do these things doesnt mean you have to.. it doesnt affect you, or your family.. so why bring me down, and belittle me over it? why not just let it be? my children are happy, well fed, and well sheltered! anyway i just got a bit frustrated with some of the things and thought id remind every one to be NICE!! just coz jane doe chose not to even give breast feeding a go at all, think before you attack, do you really need to attack? NO!! it didnt harm you or your children so be NICE!!
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13-03-2012 16:21 #1
Trusting ourselves to raise good children - A MUST READ BOOK
13-03-2012 16:28 #2
Thank you for this. It's exactly what I needed to read. I might go buy this book.
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13-03-2012 16:33 #3
I can recommend 'Free Range Kids' by Lenore Skenazy for the same reasons xxxx
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13-03-2012 16:34 #4
Its a really good book
13-03-2012 16:40 #5Senior Member
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Thankyou! Im a huge book worm! Will have to pick this book up!
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13-03-2012 17:08 #6
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13-03-2012 20:38 #8
I think this message applies to everything, not just parenting. We all seem to be so quick to judge other people, and look down on them for having different opinions/tastes/methods to ourselves, in just about every sphere of life. It drives me crazy, although I know I'm guilty of it too. Why do we concern ourselves so much with other people's choices?
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13-03-2012 20:47 #9
I agree its not just our parenting choices!
13-03-2012 20:49 #10
subscribing so i can buy book - thanks
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