Oh nic I hope the pain clears up, can you see another gp?
Stretched I have my fingers crossed for you for your results.
I have had a horrible day. It started out fine but got worse. Went to a beautiful high tea my cousin put on for all the women in our family & everything was going well until my aunt wished my mum a happy mothers day then she says to me oh can't wish you a happy mothers day yet & I broke down in tears admitedly she didn't know about the m/c but it just brought all those feelings of inadequatecy up. Then my other aunts sil who I see once in a blue moon says to me, so how many kids do you have now 2, 3 I had tears in my eyes again! I was then hot topic for the afternoon when would I have babies. I wish I hadn't gone but at least I did get to spend the day with my mum.
Sorry for the rant! Hope everyone had a lovely day xo
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13-05-2012 19:35 #371
13-05-2012 20:25 #372
Hi ladies, still can't do personals, no Internet other than my phone :-(
I read further up about complaining pregnant people :-/ it's my pet hate too my bestie and I were due 5 days apart & obviously she's still pregnant & complaining of being sick & exhausted :-/ so I've been avoiding talking about pregnancy much bit on my bad days I've called & text her and got no replies... I was wondering what was her problem, why isn't she being there for me when I need her most?! Anyway got a text from her Friday night saying that she was wondering how I was going with the ivf & that she felt I was blocking out her pregnancy & therefore we were drifting apart - I said I'm still broken, not only did we finally get pregnant after all this time trying and lose the pregnancy but I lost that journey with her and can't handle baby stuff right now, said I was still in a dark place & I don't understand why, when I've called and text her for help / support she hadn't been there & I need her - she replied with, your right, I stopped asking how you were and being there for you because you hadn't asked about my pregnancy!!!!!
Am I the only one who thinks this is selfish & she's not seeing the bigger picture?! I said we will chat in person because I knew I was about to lose it and the fights would have been so much worse via text - haven't spoken yet but any suggestions on how i can ask her to respect how much pain I'm in & not to expect me to wanting to talk babies... I will in time but I'm still so so hurt :-( I want it all back!
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13-05-2012 22:26 #373
Lama that high tea sounds like a tough outing for you. I've gone from my old reply of 'we:ll get around to it' to now saying 'these things can take longer than we'd like ' most people get the hint and change topics pretty quick.
Marttc - good idea to talk in person. There's too much emotion for both of you for texts. Remember that pregnancy hormones don't really make for rational thinking though and it's hard to know the lasting pain of loss unless you've been there. I know thst's why i like the support of this group!
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13-05-2012 22:34 #374
Lama - geez that must have been rough as if things aren't hard enough for you, you have people hassling you and telling you that you aren't a mother
Mart - When I was ttc our first in that 4 year journey my bestie at the time got the cranks with me for not gushing over her friends baby, saying I was selfish and I embarrassed her. I don't think those that haven't suffered infertility and loss can truly understand the toll it takes on the mind and the body. I have a girl on my FB hidden bc I can't handle that every update is about her pg, scan photos. People may say I'm bitter and selfish but meh, I'm protecting myself and I'm fragile atm.
AFM - AF due tomorrow or tuesday. Planning on charting and temping this month with FF. Anyone else use it?
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13-05-2012 23:41 #375
How do u hide someone's status' from your news feed? I want to do that with a few ppl lol!
13-05-2012 23:44 #376
Wait figured it out!
14-05-2012 08:07 #377
Just wanted to give you all massive
There's a lot going on here but I'm glad we've all got one another for vents ans for hugs .. you are truly all a bunch of amazing ladies and I for one am so thankful to have landed here. Sux that I had to lose my bubba to end up here but this is one of those silver lining things they talk about.
AFM, not much to report. I o'd yesterday (funny that it was Mothers Day) and there's been plenty of BD so hopefully we caught the eggy
Del I've been charting temps this month but mine just seem to be all over the place. I haven't used FF, but I have my own iPhone app that i like to chart on.
14-05-2012 08:22 #378
Lama - what a tough day. Big for you.
Mart - I completely get it. Two of my very close girlfriends and one acquaintance are pg at the moment (one was an 'accident' grr) and basically I'm not engaging with them at all. I don't give a monkey's bum if anyone thinks I'm selfish etc, I have a sore heart and I'm going to protect myself first.
Del - I did charting and temping, it does seem to be a good way of telling when you O. For me it did my head in but some people find it very good.
AFM - nothing to report really, AF due in about ten days. We didn't 'try' this month, we're having a break from the constant grind of TTC. Not using protection still but not actively trying.
I had a dream last night that my IVF specialist was trying to convince me to do IVF straight away. I was being quietly assertive that no, it wasn't time for us to do that. He pushed and pushed and then finally just suddenly gave up and walked away. Makes me feel good about our decision to put IVF on hold for now.
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14-05-2012 08:33 #379
FTM - I hope you caught that eggy! Lots of for those cells to start dividing!
Del - I also found my temps all over the place but I'm also not good at doing the same thing at the same time every day. Hopefully it works for you and the coming month will be a parade of BFPs!
I hope we all have great week ahead in store for us!
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14-05-2012 12:00 #380Senior Member
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Lama sorry to hear you had a bad day yesterday, I hate it when people ask me about when i will try again especially the ones who know about the m/c. I hope you are having a better day today.
Marttc I don't really have any advice about your friend sometimes I think people take pregnancy for granted and think it is easy for everyone. Admittedly before my losses I was the same I thought I was fit and healthy and i would never have a m/c. I was wrong, i honestlt think that it is one of those things that if you haven't experienced it you don't know what it is like. Just remember you always have us for support.
FTM for this month i hope you caught the egg. It is quite appropriate you o on Mother's day maybe it is a sign, sorry I am a little superstitious like that.
Del I don't do Charting or Temping because I am too forgetful and I wouldn't be consistent enough with it, hope it works for you though.
Stretched how did you go at the doc appt, i really hope it is good news for you.
Hi to Tigger and anyone else I missed.
AFM Had my first FS appt today and he was really lovely. He is sending me off for some more bt and DH has to have one too (he wasn't too happy about that) . But he said I should have a bt for my thyroid in 2 weeks because he doesn't think the low dose will change anything and the sooner i increase the dose the better my health will be. I go back to see him in 8 weeks to get results and he said by that stage i will have my thyrois under control and I can ttc again. I am so happy, i just need to keep myself occupied over the next 8 weeks.
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