I am guilty of this too. It is hard. I was also going to say put that money into an account for something. It wouldn't take long before you had more than enough for something for her future or an experience you could all enjoy - Disney World holiday when she is 5 or 6 or earlier if you can't wait that long. We have travelled overseas a few times with our son and I believe it offers him lots of experiences that he wouldn't otherwise have. These may be fun and/or educational but we have also found the concentrated time in our company great for his development.
It is hard but every time you want to buy something write it down and if you really think she *needs* it a few days later buy it then. OR put it on laybuy, not sure if there are fees cancelling it though.
Try cheaper alternatives too - A Toy library allows a big rotation of age appropriate toys for a low outlay. If there is soemthing she *really* loves you could then buy it for birthday etc. Libraries also have a selection of DVDs.
Arrange to do Swimming lessons or other activities on the weekend so you can't go near the shops. Quality time with you is really all she needs.
Hope that helps. Recognising you have a problem is a good start.
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12-03-2012 19:48 #11Senior Member
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12-03-2012 19:52 #12
I think it's normal with your first child. I was the same and it passed.
12-03-2012 20:13 #13Senior Member
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12-03-2012 23:22 #14Junior Member
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Thanks it's reassuring to know I'm not the only person and it's going to end, I will make it work and try not to feel bad. I think it's more the kid me as she doesn't care. I got to remind myself that I'll turn her into a monster if I don't stop, she will be the kid that's throwing a tantrum for the toy, now that has to motivate me lol! Thanks for all the advice!
13-03-2012 05:10 #15
I think it's very easy to get into this trap. Well done for noticing and wanting to do something about it.
With my dd despite my knowledge that money is tight I still find myself buying her stuff all the time! The reality is that she is growing like a weed (a very pretty weed mind you) and the weather keeps changing and both result in my realisation that I don't have enough clothes for her. She's only 5 months old, but is in Size 0 and I'm starting to seriously look at moving her into some Size 1's as some of the Size 0's are tight. Thankfully I know this will slow down really soon and I won't need to buy clothes every week. My challenge is to make sure that when it's no longer necessary that I need to stop. Let's see how I go
For my ds it's a challenge not to buy him stuff throughout the year. I'd love to just buy him presents for Christmas & his birthday, but they are only a few weeks apart, so he does get stuff during the year. It was hard work not to buy stuff quite frequently. As our lounge room filled up with toys it got easier & easier! But financially there's no way we could have sustained $200/week in 'stuff'. Do you realise that $200 could pay for full time childcare, or top private school fees (primary school)?
13-03-2012 05:53 #16
I'm similar with DD Shes never showed any "spoilt brat" traits.
When we go shopping she never asks for anything and never throws tantrums. So that's a bonus. Hahaha
13-03-2012 06:20 #17
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13-03-2012 06:46 #19
Yup mr magoo has a few!! Lol. But I try to spread them out between the toy room, his room, and the backyard do its not so obvious! Lol
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