I don't see anything wrong with his mum wanting a tatoo of his name!! What does your DF think?
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07-03-2012 12:42 #11
07-03-2012 12:52 #12
Regardless of how he came into her care, he still thinks of her as his mother right? So it is no different to you having your kids names? Or is the age that bothers you? It kind of sounds like it more about her than about the tattoo... I do get that though! Trust me!
Have you spoken to him about it? How does he feel?
07-03-2012 12:54 #13
Because of they way things were done, he has no documentation to prove his identity etc. Mil changed his name and obviously he has there surname as well but she never did it legally thru births, deaths and marriages. He has a drivers license which he got as a teenager with his school principle having to sign a stat dec saying that's the name he's always known him by. We can't get married and he can't access centrelink payments because he doesn't have a birth certificate. It's almost like, at age 31, he doesn't exist on paper.
07-03-2012 13:12 #14
Holey Dooley. She basically stole him! That poor birth mother. Please look after my child (til presumably she escapes her abusive partner) does not mean please take my child, change his name, and move away.
But, that's really a whole different kettle of fish from the tattoo issue. No I don't find it odd given the history that she wants his name tattooed on her wrist.
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07-03-2012 13:24 #15
I don't think the tattoo is weird - my Mum is almost 50 and has our names tattooed and she's going to get DD's name tattooed.
But, the whole 'I'll look after your baby until everything's sorted out' - that's a whole different story!! Your poor DF! And the birth mother!
07-03-2012 13:24 #16
07-03-2012 13:35 #17
There is no way he can get some type of piece of paper that says he is a person? Some kind of birth certificate/or legal document... I really dont know much about this sorry...
But that would suck.. Can he even get a passport?
As for the tatoo.. I'm kinda on the fence.. After reading what she did.. And yes she pretty much stole him!
I'm thinking it's a little obsessive?
If she was "giving" him and not "lent" him than I think it would be different..
To me getting the tat would kind of mean she was proud with what she did..
But than again she obviously loves him like he was her own child, maybe she just wants the tat because of innocent reasons.
07-03-2012 15:32 #18-
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Straaaange. Can he not find his birth mother, surely she would have his birth certificate? Or there must be some way to get around this situation so it can be resolved ? How confusing.
07-03-2012 16:07 #19
Wow so she just stole him? His poor bio Mum!
07-03-2012 16:31 #20
I'm must admit I think it is a bit weird! Why do old people need to have tattoo's done? She could of had his name tattoo'd on her years ago! I'd almost see it as "He is my son and your just his wife"
My "MIL" is not a very motherly person. My df is not that close with her, nor his dad. If my "MIL" wanted to suddenly get his name on her. I would be a bit confused to be honest !
On the subject of him being "stolen". I think he needs to somehow obtain an identity. It's not fair on him to miss out on marriage or the chance to travel etc. Can he just get the birth certificate off the bio mum if he doesnt want a relationship with her?
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