firm believer in a happy mum is a good mum.....
i love a night out, with my gf's or hubby. we don't do it often as we live far away but it's great. i feel recharged, the kids get spoilt and we are all happy.
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02-03-2012 22:54 #21
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03-03-2012 03:57 #22
How rude!!! There is nothing wrong with going out and having some time to yourself. I'm sure that's what keeps me sane!! That's fine if it's her choice to not do that but to force her opinion on you and insinuate that it's selfish is quite rude. I can't stand it when people judge others based on a narrow mind set. I hope you enjoyed your night out
03-03-2012 06:59 #23Our family is complete!
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Next time start patting an imaginary horse next to her, ask her what she called it and if she ever gets down from it much.
Far out, what a stupid cow. Alternatively, if you want to be a bit more passive aggressive you could say something like 'yeah I wear many hats, my mummy hat is on a lot but my kids are well adjusted and secure enough that if I put on a different hat and leave them with a sitter they not only cope, but they even have a great time themselves!'
03-03-2012 07:34 #24-
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What a mole!
03-03-2012 07:56 #25
What a b!tch!
I agree if she was happy with her own parenting she'd have no reason to justify it by putting yours down.
She's either super insecure. Jealous. Or both.
And far out who needs that with a hangover!
03-03-2012 08:49 #26
Something very similar happened to me recently. I went to soundwave, had an awesome time, left at 10am got home just before midnight, the children had a fab time with their grandparents and I came home to two content sleeping children. I saw some great bands, spent some quality time with my husband I figured all was above board.
And it was to everyone except one uptight mole. We use to go to gigs a lot when we were younger and now we both have children. I still love all the things I use to I haven't let having children change who I am. She has. Apparently heavy metal and music festivals are inappropriate for mothers and I abandoned my children for my own selfish needs.
It was the first time I'd ever gone anywhere without first putting DS to bed. We'd gone out twice before that after 7pm and only ever for a few hours with the exception of new years when we came home at 2am to a screaming baby. We don't have babysitters or family nearby to regularly go out.
She's been telling anyone who will listen how awful I am for going to soundwave, no one is yet to agree with her.
03-03-2012 08:50 #27
I'm a SAHM, and we've just gotten our DD in to daycare two days a week for three reasons 1) I'm due with number 2 in 6 weeks, 2) I have various issues that make socialising difficult, so she needs the socialisation with kids and 3) I need time to myself!
Also helps that daycare finish time is 2.5 hrs after DH finishes work, so we get some 'us' time as well.
I hate the people that talk down to me because I choose to SAH and send her to care as well
03-03-2012 09:09 #28Senior Member
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I can't believe all the shocking women in this thread, who want to do things like ENJOY themselves and go OUT places, and and have time to themselves without their children there and (splutter) do some of the things they enjoyed pre-children, and stay out past 6.30pm!!!!!
You should all be very ashamed yourselves. If you spent more time sitting on the sofa doing crochet (one handed, as you must not put your child down) then you would have a chance to think about your horrific actions!
03-03-2012 09:11 #29
I never go out to adults only events either unless I need to, and my girls have never had a babysitter. However, I think it is great when other Mum's do! I haven't wanted to yet because I have been pregnant/breastfeeding/exhausted/broke for the last 4 years and I have anxiety about leaving my girls, so I am quite happy to not go out to any big adults events lol. BUT I am happy with it being *my* choice. I have no doubt that my blur of baby years will be over and I will be wanting to join the rest of you soon enough! lol.
She clearly had a go at you because she isn't secure with her choice. Or she is exhausted/fed up with no adult time and feels bitter about other people "having it all".
03-03-2012 09:24 #30
We go out once a month(ish) and leave kids with SIL or BIL. We've had a few comments and a few suggestions that I stay home with the babies so DH can go... err, no way!
Life doesn't end because you had babies.
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