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    Default what do your mothers groups do?

    Hi this is prob posted in the wrong spot.....

    I have just come from my mother's group and every single time it is the same conversations and the same complaining. I have only been with this group for a few mths and we barely meet once a month. Most of them are returning to work and as there is 6 of us its that hard to find a day where we can all meet, it takes a month of planning, its rediculous!!!
    When we do eventually meet, im so bored outa my brains and so is my DD who just cries the whole time lol.

    If i didnt have a baby i would not associate with these women. Firstly, they are 10+ yrs older than me and i know we are all going thru the same stages with our babies (all around same age) and our ages shouldnt matter....but it does!!!! Personally, i dont want to talk about my baby or their baby for 2hrs.

    If i try and change topic it's about mortages or careers or money or their husbands being lazy. BORING!!!
    I dont feel im bonding with any of them, i am ready TTC #2 and they are all returning to work or still complaining how hard it is with one baby and having to go back to work having to wean from breastfeeding, babysitting, daycare arangements etc...

    All they want to do is meet in a stupid park all the time and we end up sitting on the grass for 2-3hrs, i get so bored i walk off with DD and we sit by the lake and end up watching the ducks and i plonk her feet in. This is fine, but there are so many times i can stand doing this! lol

    Next week they want to go swimming...well, i guess thats an improvement! But...they want to go out for lunch after???? omg, i dont know about them but my DD is that buggered after swimming all she wanst is a sleep afterwards not to wait around while we eat. So i asked if we can have lunch at the pools before we swim. They all said "yer, well discuss it more next week?"....hrmmm.

    Mother's groups are BORING!
    What do your mother's groups get up to?
    I really want to keep up with meeting them for my DD's sake - she likes other babies and i need to work on making friends, as i dont have many....it is possibly just me thats the problem.
    I just cant stand how boring they are.

    I have one friend, who i cringe when i say she is a friend because i never thought i would get along with her. We clash a bit - we r both competitive, anal and *****y lol But when i think about it, i like hanging out with her. She works with DH and we knew eachother b4 we had our bub's and became a bit closer after we had them. We can go to eachother's houses and we talk about sooo much random crap and also have quality D&M's. She is also a bit older than me but we can still relate to eachother? It's funny, i hated her 12mths ago, now she's pretty cool...i guess.

    Ok, sorry for the ramble and long post.
    I just wanna know what other mother's groups get up to and talk about??

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    Hey Humphrey I have a great mothers group we range in age from 25 to late 30s. We get along really well and they have been a great support to me since having bubs, she is now 13 months. We go to the beach, have lunch, park, go to each others houses. We have also had a couple of nights out without the bubs which has also been great. It sounds to me like you really don't like the women and if you don't like the women I don't think it's going to matter what you end up doing, your still not going to like it. I also go to a playgroup occasionally which is pretty good too. Do you have any playgroups in the area you could try instead? Just to add we talk about lots of things like obviously our kids, nights out we are going to, what we are up to on the weekend and general stuff going on in our lives there isn't whinging and *****ing at all. We do talk about personal stuff if something is bothering is and it's nice to have people to help you out. I have to say I got lucky with this group I know they are definitely not all like this lol
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    Hi There
    I really lucked out with my mothers group too. the women were all very introverted and boring and had no people or networking skills, was always me asking them how they were or their weeks were or what they did for work pre baby etc etc.
    Anyway, I persevered a bit and have made 2 lovely friends from it that I see regularly outside of MG.
    I also joined Playgroup, do swimming lessons & gymbaroo and from those activities have met more like minded people.
    I found it tough at first too because my sister & sil both had babies at the same time as me and have really good mothers groups that socialise all the time.

    My MG had a lunch once and it was sooo boring, they all just sat their with glass of water and then ran home to their husbands and babies. It was then that me & my other 2 friends realised, I can see them once a week at MG, but I have no interest in socialising with them outside of that. It seems to be a general consensus because none of them have ever organised anything again. We just meet at MG every week and have polite chatter and thats it.

    They have all gone back to work and look at me with puppy dog eyes, like 'oh your not going back to work?' I say 'no, we dont need the money!'. Seriously they have asked me that question so many **king times!

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    Gosh - I must have lucked out. Our oldest kids are turning six this year and we are still great friends. We help each other, baby sit, BBQs, mummy dinners out etc etc.

    Once our kids where old enough we joined playgroup and had enough for our own session. Once a week along we'd all trot.

    They are some of my best friend and I love them! We have a big age range - 25 - 40 (me being the oldest) but it didnt seem to matter. Some are better friends than others and see more of each other - but we all get on.

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    I get asked when am i returning to work. One of them asked me twice in the space of 10mins. I too said, we dont need me to return to work and im happy being at home raising my DD while she is still so little ...and 10mins later i said the same thing to her.....hrmmmmm. Plus we are trying for bub's #2 soon (i didnt tell her about ttc #2)

    What ages can u start Gymbaroo? my DD is 12mths..... im interested in that but think she's a tad young?.
    I take DD swimming, but just the two of us or with DH when he is on hols or a weekend. She lovvveeees water. Im not interested in lessons. All my MG do lessons and i think its a crock (sorry, dont mean to offend).
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    Our MG only lasted a few weeks, then most mums have gone their separate ways. Obviously people didn't gel as a group, so we don't bother getting together just for the sake of it.

    Instead those of us that got along well catch up on our own, as I'm sure some of the younger girls in our group do together as well. It would have been nice to see each other more often, but if we don't have anything interesting (apart from kids) to talk about, then why pretend IMO?

    Gymbaroo is great fun - I've been taking DS since he was 4mths old, so 12mths is definitely not too young.

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    Can anyone give me an idea on what they pay to go to Gymbaroo? i know it's prob different in each area, but for just a rough idea?
    Is it per term?
    What do you actually do there?
    My DD is 12mths, standing but not quite walking solo - would she be in with the mobile babies? im not sure if she would be upto the walking babies group yet?
    Is it mean of me not to invite my MG? lol i already know they all work and are sooooo busy.
    I'd like to meet new people.....

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    No it's not mean not to invite your MG - you don't have to do everything with them, even if you did like them - which you don't anyway!

    Can't tell you how much your class would be (check website maybe?) but ours are per term and about $15 per lesson I think (non-mobile). IMO it's well worth it, the babies love the interaction. Everyone will have different opinions though of course.

    Their website has videos you can watch to get an idea of what they do.

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    I have been doing gymbaroo since DD was about 3mths old. Mine costs $175 a term. DD is 17 mths & loves it.

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    Thanks so much for sharing ladies, appreciate it.


 

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