I'm sorry you are encountering negative reactions
I agree with DaddyLarge, you don't owe anyone an explanation!
I like the note on the file idea too.
Good Luck. I hope you have a positive experience!
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01-03-2012 13:31 #11
01-03-2012 13:55 #12
I hope she felt like a total fool.
01-03-2012 13:59 #13Senior Member
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I can sympathise with this. I fed DD some formula while in hospital and the midwives were a bit funny about it.
I agree that you don't have to justify yourself, but explaning your situation might help them understand. I don't think they're trying to be nasty, it's just that they've been taught that everyone should breastfeed, and probably see that as a black and white rule rather than a guideline. When you challenge their "in the box" thinking, they run the risk that their brain will explode. It isn't their fault, they're just built that way.
Be the bigger person and don't take it to heart. Remind yourself that, in their own clumsy way, they're trying to do what's best for the baby. In a few days, you'll be at home with a beautiful little person and the hospital will be a distant memory.
01-03-2012 14:03 #14Senior Member
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I agree with all of the above
Re: bottles and formula. I would suggest 8 bottles and teats, a bottle brush, Milton tablets and a container (for sterilizing). Obviously if the hospital supplies some of these u needn't bother taking it.
Also, S26 Gold commonly causes constipation in bubs, more than other formulas, so I would recommend taking either a different brand instead. Nan Ha Gold and Bellamys Organic (coles) are the two I fed my own bub and all our foster babes with no probs and they taste much nicer too (I have tasted them!). Nan is recommended by many professionals for being gentle on bubs tummies (I believe its more whey based that casein based, unlike S26...?).
Hope you don't mind my suggestion of switching formula
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01-03-2012 14:17 #15
I formula feed DD from birth in a pro breastfeeding hospital. My reasons where no where near yours.
I agree with all the others. Discuss with your OB. Ensure a note is on file for the midwives. Refer anyone that asks to your file. They wont ask twice. Ensure that your birthing team are advised so you dont have them trying to attach baby at delivery. Last place you want a scene!
My hospital only provided formula when DD was in ICU - after that I needed my own.
You need to check what the hospital does and doesnt provide. My hosiptal didnt have access to fresh boiled water - only an urn which you cant use in bottles so DH had to bring in the water while we where there. Additionally there was nowhere to sterilise bottles - they had a small microwave that didnt fit my sterliser - so again DH was bringing them back and forth. The water from the taps in the hospital was not hot enough to just wash them in.
We only stayed two days cause the whole bottle thing was doing my head in - the middies drove me nuts about not feeding and cracked it at me when I took the medication my ob had supplied to dry up my milk. (my OB was very supportive).
So - check with the hospital first. You will need more than four bottles - even at home unless you want to be constantly washing - I had enough to get through a days feeds and a spare for just in case.
On a side note - figuring this is your first - do some hunting around on here about "gold" formulas. They have a real reputation for causing constipation in babies.
Good luck! And congratulations on becoming a mother and surviving cancer! You've faced bigger battles than a couple of nosey midwives!
01-03-2012 14:19 #16
I'm sorry you're facing so much negativity about this I wish that people would just be accepting of mothers formula-feeding, whether because they choose to give formula, or have to because of a medical reason.
I agree with previous suggestions to talk to your ob, about it, and maybe a 'head' midwife, if there is someone in charge you can talk to? I would even consider writing a letter of formal 'complaint' (if that is the correct word?) to the maternity department, explain how traumatic it has been for you to have to justify yourself over and over. You shouldn't have to go through that. It may bring awareness so that this does not happen anymore, to you or to other women.
As for having to explain yourself so many times, I have found that even just on bub-hub, when someone says "I am unable to breastfeed because of... (medication/ medical reasons/ etc), the 'pro breast brigade' often say "oh but you probably can just change your medication, you really should just research it some more, surely it's still possible to breastfeed etc." They are often trying to be helpful and 'educate' the person as to why breastfeeding is possible, but often, like in your case, it is not! So it doesn't suprise me that the midwives are trying to be 'helpful and supportive' about you breastfeeding, but they obviously need to be told to shut up and mind their beeswax!
01-03-2012 23:23 #17
Agree with all of the above. I am sick of having to justify myself all the time when I tell people I'm bottle feeding and getting those judgmental looks as if I'm a bad mother. It was very difficult at first in hospital, as ours was very pro breast feeding. But once we made it clear to everyone that we were bottle feeding and were very firm in our decision, it was a lot easier and the staff accepted it. I was lucky I had a very supportive hubby who stood up to the hospital staff when I was too emotional to do so myself!
The hospital supplied ready made formula and bottles for us the first few days then we brought our own stuff in so they could show us how to mix the formula, sterilize etc. We have an
Avent microwave sterilizer which is great. We used it in the hospital as there was a little kitchen for staff and visitors with a microwave. We took 2 Avent and 2 Tommee Tipee bottles to try (baby liked the Avent ones best). We also brought in a tin of nan ha gold formula. We had no idea what to get but the hospital used that particular brand so we went with that one and have had no issues.
01-03-2012 23:34 #18Senior Member
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I would take formula of choice & aprox 4 or so bottles. I wouldnt worry about steriliding equip, hosputal should have it & if u need it, u can always send hubby home to get it.I bottle fed by choice for no reason anywhere near yours and i would not stand fot any one questioning mr on it. It was in my file & no one brought it up $ they wouldnt have wanted to euther!!!
01-03-2012 23:37 #19
I chose to bottle feed from the get go for my own personal reasons not medical. I had a 24 hour labour and dd was born at 7 pm. By the time I had calmed down it was after midnight when I dozed off. I woke up to the midwife ( who I told I was bottle feeding) grabbing my boob and putting it in dd mouth, I had been pretty heavily drugged and It took me a few minutes to realize what she was doing. I had bruises and I was so angry I let fly. I did not see that midwife for the rest of my stay.
01-03-2012 23:50 #20
I always brought my own microwave steriliser. That way, I could sterilise in 8 mins (instead of the hour in Milton bleach - ugh!) and keep the bottles in there after I tipped the water out. I had my own bottle brush /s, too.
Don't forget a dummy!
And as for the rudeness, I recommend making an appt with the head MW beforehand and explaining your concern. If you share what you've told us about why you can't feed, she'll make sure the others get the message, too. of course, I'm in a country hospital but it may work for bigger ones, too.
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