Sometimes we just have to remember that it's not about us. When I was on bed rest in hospital I wanted everyone to stop whinging about how difficult their toddlers were because I would have given anything to spend one whole day at home with mine, or to stop complaining about being overdue because I would have gladly gone weeks and weeks over instead of having a premature baby on oxygen. It took a lot for me to realize and remember that what was small issues to me were big problems to them and that me arguing to them that their problems were small compared to mine didn't make me feel better it just made them feel guilty.
Sometimes it's better just to ignore certain people and comments for a while until it all blows over. Some friendships just aren't productive at times.
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29-02-2012 10:41 #51
29-02-2012 10:50 #52Senior Member
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Ofcourse there are some parents who exaggerate, thats hunan nature.
Society is obsessed with what baby's should be doing. If your baby does what theirs does/did then their baby was 'on track'. If you take their advice then that justify's that what they did was right.
Everyone has different expectations. Sleeping thru can be 6 hrs to some, 12 to others. I don't let my girls cry, but my mum would disagree. Etc.
Sleeping thru is a badge if honour for good parenting. I imagine there are women out there that exaggerate. I have always been asked by complete strangers if my twins sleep thru, what's the obsession.
Just as there are 'drama queens' in our world, who thrive on 'poor you'.
(I'm not implying anyone in this thread is either, I don't know any of you).
I have one easy one and one hard one, for the record. I'm a duck on water. Some people think I'm a superwoman looking after twins on my own (DH works away), as I'm always on time, am in control, dont complain and have a smile on. Others know that i'm kicking like mad underneath, an (organised) chaos!
P.S some people and their offspring are twits - that's human nature.
29-02-2012 20:16 #53Senior Member
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27-10-2012 18:55 #55
Re: So over ''easy'' babies!! **mini vent**
I have had a very rough trot with my kids and sleep - DS1 is almost 4.5 and DS2 is 2 - I haven't had a full night sleep in almost 5 years. I get the exhaustion. I used to feel a lot like you described in your original post.
I had to learn to change my way of thinking. Every time I resented my friends for having an easier time than me, I reminded myself that That my challenges are my own and I never know the extent of the challenges that my friends are going through. My youngest is asthmatic and has spent hos short life so far with chronic tonsilitis and a host of other illnesses. It is rough. But I would never ever wish my journey on someone else, or that I was having someone else's ... because things aren't always what they seem. They may have easy babies now, but perhaps they went through a rough time themselves or maybe they might struggle somewhere down the line... you never know.
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