My DH does no housework/cooking ever. I wish sometimes he did, he just doesn't see the mess. When he does clean, like if I make him vacuum, hes sloppy. I am not a clean freak... but like it to be tidy.
It's frustrating because he doesnt realise the amount of work I put in and then him and DS mess it up in 10 minutes again.
Before we lived together he lived in his house, he had housemates and he paid his mum to come and clean his house.
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26-02-2012 15:58 #11
26-02-2012 16:01 #12
The day after I came home from hospital last time I was buzzing around the house doing a massive clean up because the place was a MESS. Frustrates me to no end because like your man, he's the messy one lmao.
26-02-2012 16:09 #13
DH is not very good. He is a lot better now than when we first moved in.
He lived at home during his first degree, and only moved to college for his post-grad, but lived on campus in a catered and cleaned place, so pretty much you only had to clean your own room and do your own washing.
I blame his father. He is narcissisticc and has 4 sons. None of whom are expected to do more than maintain their own cars and rooms. MIL works two jobs (FIL earns a lot), does ALL the household work for the 7 people living in her house, with no dishwasher, no dryer etc because those "cost money" and are a waste according to FIL who has never lifted a fat finger to do anything. But car washes for his porsche are not a waste of money. grrrr.
Anyway, good news being that DH knows now that his parents are not how a marriage should work. He also has a job which means he usually works 6 days a week, 12 hours a day as standard (not overtime incl). So I feel like he doesn't have to do the big jobs, as he simply has no time, but I remind him all the time I only do everything because he doesn't have the time, not because it is how it should be because I am the wife!
26-02-2012 16:10 #14
Dh does everything I do except cooking..he tries, but is hopeless
At the moment he does most of the housework as I'm sure my little womb tenant is trying to kill me from the inside out
He lived at home until he was 24. His mother did EVERYTHING for him. I'm suprised she wasn't still bathing him and wiping his butt I had to show him how to use the washing machine, dryer, and explaining the sorting and hot/cold/delicate wash etc..even the basic things like stacking the dish rack in order, or stacking the dishwasher, how to wring out a mop and mop without soaking the floor, He still struggles to hang the washing, but I do most of that..for some reason I adore hanging it out so thats mine, mine mine!
DS is well versed at 12 on how to do all household chores. When he whines I tell him his wife will appreciate it one day
26-02-2012 16:19 #15
Me and DH both lived independently for a long time before getting together then moving in.
When we were both working everything was 50/50. I worked mornings DH worked nights so it was pretty easy. When we first had DD he would do ALL the house work. Then hired me a cleaner when he went back to work. Now I do most of the cleaning. But he is really good. BUT his study is revolting!! I refuse to clean it haha.
He won't just do anything anymore, I have to ask, but there is never any dramas. I tell him what needs to be done then he does it, no arguments or dramas.
I will add he is very lazy if I don't ask him to do something, he just will not think to do it himself!!
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26-02-2012 16:21 #16Senior Member
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My DH had lived in lots of share houses before we got together.
In our household, I take care of clothes and food, including grocery shopping. DH does the floors (mopping and vacuuming) and most of the dishes and takes care of rubbish. We both do general tidying up and take turns doing the bathrooms.
26-02-2012 16:38 #17
DP is brilliant when he is home (FIFO worker) he washes bottles, does dishwasher, hangs out and folds washing (I have to put it on though otherwise my whites go in with his blacks)
I do ALL the cooking because, as much as he wants me to let him do it, he is quite useless in the kitchen.
In saying that though, I do about 4 times as much every day that he is away, than he does daily when he's here...
ETA - he lived at home with his mum until I met him at 26 and we moved in together, but from highschool age had to do everything for himself. Laundry, cooking, cleaning etc. his mum is not good at housekeeping at all and now that both her boys have moved out, the house is terrible.
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26-02-2012 16:43 #18Feel my wrath!
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DH moved out of home at 16. He is great with house work
But also he grew up with a Dad with OCD, who would check he dusted the door frame when he cleaned the bathroom, so that might have something to do with it too.
26-02-2012 16:46 #19-
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All the men I have had relationships with were able to look after themselves. They have all cooked and cleaned. My current is much cleaner than me, he was head housekeeper for years at a result so he is super clean and very good at scrubbing showers thankfully. That's a job I never do.
26-02-2012 16:56 #20-
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DH moved out at 18-26.
he does more housework than i do.
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