It's just not fair! & I feel terrible...

[AceOfBase]

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss, I wish it didn't happen. I can imagine how brave your friend from work must have been to let you know her news after knowing what you are going through, she sounds like a very respectful and caring human being.

When my friend was pregnant with her 5th child she was scared to tell me as I was TTC as well , but when she did she had tears in her eyes from guilt because she knew my struggle with infertility. Gee I felt so bad to think that she has been blessed with being pregnant and she couldn't share her wonderful news with me for fear of me being upset with her.

I agree with previous posts about it being perfectly fine to feel jealous and angry while going through your loss, I think it's a normal reaction to such a situation.

[Chazrity]

Thanks everyone.
It's nice to know I'm not the only person who is feeling/has felt this way.
I'm feeling much better today.

[Disney Baby]

It was a real kick in the guts for me when I had my m/c because 3 friends (who I already knew were preg) announced it on FB, and I didn't care because at the time, I was pregnant too waiting my turn to announce, but that wasn't to be.

I never thought that my first pregnancy would be from IVF and that it would end in a m/c.

Life just isn't fair sometimes

[tiggerfields]

Big squishy hugs, I know EXACTLY how you feel.

I feel like God specially sends dozens of pregnant women across my path every day, to taunt me in their smugness about what they have, and I don't.

Totally irrational and awful. But true just the same. And I cry, and cry, and cry.

I think all of us who've been through this hell know how you feel and have felt at least a bit of it ourselves.

[ABigDeepBreath]

I agree. It sucks.

I have 2 preggers friends who i was excited to be on the 1st bub journey with. Now I think about how I was the "1" to take the m/c bullet for them (in terms of the "1 in 3" stats). I am glad that they don't have to go through what I have. But it's still hard.

[Amysan]

disney! i didnt realise, im so sorry for your loss.
i may be joining you yet ladies, i had my 8 week scan thursday, and there was no hb. im waiting till tuesdays scan before dr wants to do d&c wednesday. i dont have my hopes up too much, my dates are spot on thanks to ivf. life is truly a ***** sometimes.

i agree with 'i never thought it would happen to me!' ivf, being pregnant at all, and now potentially a miscarriage. im trying to stay positive, even though bubs did not survive, i now know i CAN make embryos, i can carry, and i will get there one day. i know ivf is supposed to never work the first time, but i thought maybe it was about time our luck had changed. i was wrong it seems.

[blissfulfairy]

Hugs hugs hugs to all of you. I feel you. We lost our baby this week, I have friends due roughly the same time and 2 baby showers in the next couple of weeks.

I feel so sad that I dont get to grow that beautiful bump and deliver that beautiful baby, but Im happy for others still getting to experience that joy.

It really is bittersweet isn't it?

My obs also told me the stats are higher than 1 in 3 and almost 50% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. That's extremely high.

Hugs all round x x x

[ABigDeepBreath]

I heard it was 1 in 3 women who will miscarry and 20% of pregnancies that end in m/c.

50% of pregnancies?! That's huge!

[delirium]

Yes 50% is right. That includes chemicals. Even a decade ago HPT weren't as sensitive as they are now so many women just thought they were getting a late period. Now they can detect up to 6 days before AF many women are getting the BFP and then losing soon after, which is what happened to me.My DH said I should never have tested early and I would never have known. But even without the test I would have known. Even thru having years of endo and I had never had a bleed like that