I am not suprised when kids misbehave in shops, in fact I am suprised that more don't
Shopping centres are a hive of over stimulation - there's fluro lights, flashing lights, yellow, green, blue and red lights, there's music, noise, conversations, phones ringing, squeaky trolleys, humming fridges, bells, clanking lifts, buzzing escaltors, rattling airconditioners and there's food, lollies, toys, books, etc etc
People are rude and in a rush, strange people smile and frown at kids, people bump into them, jostle them and some ignore them
A child;s behaviour has little to do with how they have been parented, but rather to do with the child's personality and brain wiring as well as how the child feels that day and also their maturity and level of comprehension
How confusing when a child sees another child runing free, another child eating an icecream/lolly, reading a book, holding a toy, running amok or behaving in a fashion desirable to an adult
I think there is way too much expectation for a child to behave like a mini adult, and yet so many adults are rude and inconsiderate to a child and quite a few adults behave like zoo animals too
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22-02-2012 09:33 #31Senior Member
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22-02-2012 09:38 #32
My children are feral shopping, it doesn't matter what I do they insist on running rampant, if I strap them into the pram they scream and fight and pinch each other, if I let them out then run around the shopping center like chipmunks. Bribery is my only trick, these include food, a promise that if I don't get to 3 they can have a milkshake or a ride on those $2 toys if they misbehave and I get to 3 they don't get one which makes for a fun whiny 1 hour trip home on the bus needless to say I avoid going shopping unless I have to without DF which is virtually impossible when he works 2:2 away. As for other peoples reactions, my replies vary from shame (I try not to actually cry at the shops) to anger and mostly frustration. I have been known to snap at anyone who looks at me like I am the worlds worst parent, but mostly I just ignore everyone and apologize where necessary.
I love this
"Public space is not adult space. It is public and, by extension, for everyone. Got a problem with a toddler making a fuss? Too bad. No one’s complaining about your sickly Justin Bieber perfume or the tubercular cough of that gentleman over there. Suck it up."
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22-02-2012 09:43 #33
it's not a nightmare for me any more. ages 7 and alllmost 3.
it really depends whats happening tho, ds#2 is happy to be in the pram if he has his nintendo DS, or the ipad or a calculator with him. he needs to shut off from the people, the noise and the lights or he will get quite agressive and screamy, when that happens we leave. nothing at the shops is as important as trying to get my son to calm down, and when he is in sensory overload screamy aggressive meltdown mode, the only thing that calms him is to get the heck outta there.
the older one is fine. the only thing he does is jump, he constantly bounces and jumps to regulate his sensory problems, and sometimes he gets in peoples way and they get huffy, but in all honesty i dont give a crud, if they're biggest problem is a kid getting in their way then i don't have time to worry about it, because my child is concentrating really hard on trying to make his body not feel like its going to explode.
when ds#1 was little he used to scream the place down EVERY SINGLE TIME; at the time i thought he was being naughty, but he has reason to. and i would ignore it. i would let him scream it out, because nothing else worked anyway.
people would stare and judge, whisper, laugh etc.
22-02-2012 09:51 #34Senior Member
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My son was good as a toddler (would just sit in his pram and look around), but after 2 he became difficult. At 3, he is very difficult - runs away from me, sometimes lies on the ground, tries to grab things, screams, runs around in circles, doesnt want to sit in the trolley seat.
I tend to avoid taking him now as I find it stressful.
22-02-2012 10:21 #35
It depemds on how they feel on the day, some days it's a dream to take them shopping sometimes it's not. They get tired, cranky, over stimulated, bored, and over it. When I get over shopping I go home, when my toddlers get over it they react in an equally age appropriate manner.
They've had tantrums, cried, run around being 'silly'- it's all part and parcel of shopping with a 1 year old and a 2 year old.
22-02-2012 10:24 #36
DD 14 months is great loves going shipping sits on trolley seat n gets things to hold on to before putting in trolley DS 5 can be a shopping centre terrorist
22-02-2012 10:30 #37Senior Member
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We live an hours drive from the closest shops and we only go to town once a fortnight. This meansit is at best a half day trip if not all day. De starts out ok and is usually good in small specialty stores but by the time we hit woolies (always last so things stay cold for the trip home) he is tired and feral. its not like we can just pop back later when he is in a better mood, we just have to deal with the screaming/whining. On more than one occasion I have been fighting back tears myself.
My phone has made this post about as easy and enjoyable a solo shopping trip with ds.... Sorry about the crazy spacing, typos, and that little exclamation mark I can't seem to fix it
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22-02-2012 11:01 #38
My 2 yo is kind of ok, she will sit in the pram or trolley for a little while so if I'm quick I can get out without much drama. If I give her a fruit squeezy it also keeps her happy. Days when she won't sit in the pram/trolley I end up having to carry her so it's a quick essentials only and get out.
DS is 5 and well Coles seems to send him into overdrive. Needs to pick up or touch everything, wants to ask for everything and if he's a bit tired like today is prone to having a meltdown in aisle 5 LOL.
They are not angels but not completely demonic either, just somewhere in the middle - enough for it not to be a complete nightmare but enough that you don't want to make it a regular occurrence unless essential.
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my 9 year old is the worst!!
he moans and drags his feet and runs and annoys his sisters and basically is a royal pain in the...
he is so good at home and i know everyone looks at me like..what a terrible mother.
my 2 year old calls squeezy packs , squeezy f $cks.
so she screams that.
dd1 cries as she is so dramatic or she tells dd2 to yell squeezy pack.
then we go to the check out and dd2 likes to tell them all that she has a penis and not a vagina.
thats usually when ds and dd2 run off and i silently scream in my head and try not to meet anyones eyes.
sent from brain to Iphone to BubHub~ a game of chinese whispers.
22-02-2012 11:35 #40
Mine love to go to the shops - and depending on the day, time, climate, phase of the moon, global warming etc etc can either be little charmers or little horrors.
Im one of those mums that smiles sympathetically at mums whos kids are having meltdowns - cause I know that next time I'm there it will be me looking for that smile!
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