My bub is 12 weeks old. During the day I watch him closely and swaddle and put him in his cot when I see a tired sign. Most of the time he grizzles for 15 to 40 mins then closes his eyes. BUT... he opens his eyes after a few seconds and seems to not able to go to sleep although he wants to. At this point I normally put him on his side (if I haven't already), put a hand firmly on his arm and sometimes pat his back if he still grizzles. He normally wakes up in just 1 sleep cycle of 40 mins and 80% of the time can't resettle unless I help him immediately (firm hand on arm, patting, breastfeeding, etc...).
At night time he sleeps on his back and normally has no problem going to sleep by himself. But he always wakes up every 2 hours (since birth) and if I don't feed him he will cry. But I suspect it's more comfort sucking than hunger because no matter how long I feed him - 1 min or 20 mins, he will wake up 2 hours after that.
Is it true that he can't resettle because he doesn't self settle to sleep in the beginning? It's confusing for me because I think he goes to sleep by himself but somehow can't manage to resettle.
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20-02-2012 10:02 #1
Is this self settling?
20-02-2012 10:18 #2
I'd say no, buts that's ok! Your baby sounds normal to me
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20-02-2012 10:25 #3
I agree it sounds like he is not self settling, but you and he are doing great. I never understood the need for infants to self settle.
20-02-2012 10:33 #4Senior Member
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Its perfectly normal for babies to need assistance to get to sleep. They aren't like us and can't "organise" themselves and their thoughts iykwim.. At 12 weeks I would think most babies need a feed or pat or shush to sleep. Don't let anyone tell you that its not normal because it is. Some babies will have a grizzzle and then back off to sleep but not all or even many.
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20-02-2012 10:56 #5Senior Member
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I wouldnt be expecting a 12week old to self settle just yet, he may be still needing to know you will come to him when he cries. This is very important for a bit later on with seperation anxiety.
My DD did start to sleep thru the night at 12 weeks BUT she did not sleep a wink during the day.
All the techniques you are using to reassure him and settle him are terriffic so keep them up!
It's up to you but i used to pop dummy in when DD woke after a cycle and hold her till she went back off to sleep....it then turned into just poping the dummy in. Then, after a while she no longer needed it to settle. .....she found her fingers!
My DD is 12mths now and has self settled fom about 6mths old by quietly playing in her cot, rocking herself to sleep and suking her fingers. She has a glow worm that i put on as i leave the room (has a light and plays soft music for 5mins) sometimes when i walk past her room after an hr i hear that she has turned it on herself......she goes back to sleep after about 10mins. Dark room was key for her that it's time for sleep.
Goodluck you are doing a great job
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20-02-2012 11:58 #6
20-02-2012 12:11 #7
Babies do grow into young children, who need us less and less as they grow older. I never even bought a cot for my daughter, she was in my bed from day dot, falling asleep during a breastfeed. Now she's 8, has her own 'stuff' and needs me far less than she did as a baby or toddler. No one ever regrets spending too much time with their babies.
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