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    I don't expect it nor do I supply it. Most of my friends don't drink, the ones who do drink I tell them to BYO.

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    Quote Originally Posted by share a book View Post
    TBH the only time I think alcohol will be there is if it's at a pub or if BYO is on the invitation.
    Exactly what you said

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    I don't know where the back story for this thread is coming from..but I wouldn't leave my daughter with people I don't trust, whether or not they are drinking, period. Be it for whatever occasion.

    I have a diverse social circle...some of my friends and I roll out the drinks when we are together, like a glass or 2 of wine..other friends don't drink at all, and I don't sit there thinking "oh wow, I really wish you were drinking because I don't know how to have fun without booze". I know a few problem drinkers, and I cut them out of my life. Nobody needs to be around that.

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    Just think I should clarify. When I said I do expect it, I don't mean I expect it for me to drink but that alcohol will be present. I don't drink so it's mineral water for me but if I held a bbq I'd provide alcohol. However, I won't tolerate alcohol at a child's birthday party.

    I don't get why some people see alcohol as such a bad thing.
    Not wanting alcohol everywhere you go doesn't mean you think it's a bad thing. On the contrary, it's great if you can enjoy a drink and socialise. I have no problem with that. I do have a problem with it being a must-have at every social function, though. I do believe that in some settings it does set a bad example for our children and it's something I am very conscious about. For example, if I see alcohol at a child's party I will not allow my children to attend that party.

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    I honestly don't mean to antagonise anyone here but I'm genuinely curious... If you brought your child to a kids party and saw a bottle of wine or two set out, you would turn around and take your child away, but how would you explain this to your child? I'm assuming you wouldn't say it was because there were adults there drinking wine? Or would you?

    For those who said you also dont let your kids be around smoke, would you also turn around and take them home if there was an adult at the party smoking outside?

    I'm honestly genuinely asking as I would never in a million years have thought this as an issue. I hate smoking as does DH but we don't mind friends doing it outside if they come round.

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    Yes if I saw alcohol at drop off then we would leave. If I found out after I would be beyond upset. If people were smoking well away from kids (at my house the parties are in the backyard behind the fence, any smokers would be banished to out near the letter box) I wouldn't make her leave, but if they were near the kids I would make her leave.

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    But what would you say to your child about why you were leaving? Assuming they are not a baby of course.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kw123 View Post
    But what would you say to your child about why you were leaving? Assuming they are not a baby of course.
    She is turning 9 and I would tell her she is not staying around people who are drinking or if people are smoking within close proximity to the kids.

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    I've been served alcohol at every childrens birthday party i've ever been to. It hasn't been a 'getting on it' kind of thing, the crowd I generally associate with are all huge 'winos', so we enjoy a glass of vino on most occasions (a lot of them are European so for them it's a cultural thing as well).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Witwicky View Post
    I've been served alcohol at every childrens birthday party i've ever been to. It hasn't been a 'getting on it' kind of thing, the crowd I generally associate with are all huge 'winos', so we enjoy a glass of vino on most occasions (a lot of them are European so for them it's a cultural thing as well).
    I'm talking about older kids with school friends where you don't stay, and may not know the parents well, especially if they attend before and after school care so you would rarely see the parents at all. Or would they only be allowed to go if you know the parents well enough to also be invited?


 

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