Yeah see I guess I see the matter a little differently. My parents are conservative, not stupid. Of course they know and accept their adult children are sexually active. But for me, it's one thing to take advantage of the days and evenings they have the house to themselves while my parents are out and about, and it's another to rub their noses in the issue by sharing the same bed under their roof while they are at home.
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14-02-2012 23:36 #61
14-02-2012 23:43 #62
Rightly or wrongly, my parents are uncomfortable with their children having sex in the house while they are in it. Do they not have the right to voice that discomfort? The idea that asking her to respect this rule somehow minimises her role in the family seems to be quite a dramatic conclusion.
14-02-2012 23:53 #63
14-02-2012 23:59 #64
To those who abhor the 'my house my rules' philosophy, can I ask how you reach a conclusion in your house when you, as the parent, identify a rule that is important to you and your child disagrees with it?
My parents have compromised on the 'sex under their roof' business in giving my sister and her boyfriend 'space' and spending time away from their home when he visits. To me this is fair on their behalf given their opinion on the matter.
15-02-2012 00:08 #65
If we ever had to stay at my parent's house, I don't imagine they would object to us sharing a bed. Then again, we're on the wrong side of 35. We've been together for 13 years and can survive a stay at their house without sex. We'd also have to share the bed with two children and we're so visibly buggered that sex is quite obviously the furtherest thing from our minds!
15-02-2012 00:08 #66
In this scenario, your parents haven't compromised. They are still stating that her bf should not stay the night, ever. She's in her late 20's - giving her and her bf space is something my parents used to do when I was 15. Does she get to close the door when he's over, or do they make her leave it open?
15-02-2012 00:10 #67
When you mention that you can survive a stay without sex...how do your parents know that either you or your sister are having sex under their roof?
I mean, they could just be cuddling...
15-02-2012 00:24 #68
15-02-2012 00:25 #69
Personally, I think there is several issues. Ok, the "rules" are known. Why spend so much time there? Were it me, I would simply chose to not stay there. In that scenario, I would put it back on them. "If you want us to stay the night, guess what mum and dad, I'm a big girl now." But that's not the case.
Do I personally find mum and dad's opinion sheltered and outdated - definitely. The woman is in her late 20's for crying out loud. But at the same time, I find her and her bf's behavior baffling tbh.
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