Thanks for all of your input! It is certainly a lot to think about!!
We've been TTC for 14 months with no luck. Who knows whether we are even ABLE to have kids? This whole thing is coinciding with a time where I am questioning the entire direction of the life I always thought I would have.
Taking kids out of the equation, my work suddenly seems a whole lot more important to me.
The team at work is small - only a handful of us. We all sit in the same room together. It's not like there is a hierarchy.
I think I have to go. Six years ago DH gave up his entire life to move to Australia to be with me ... I can't NOT go.
Still sucks the big one
ETA - sorry, missed some questions!
Can I take 6 or 12 months leave? Nope. Not an option. As I mentioned above, the team at work is very small, so they rely on me (or someone else doing my job) to keep trading. They have no one to just step in, so they would have to recruit someone. It isn't worth their time, money or effort in recruiting and training someone (which will take months) for a few months.
Can DH find his dream job in this city? Perhaps in the future, but the moving for 6 months is a stepping stone to his dream job. The company he works for (which is part of the dream) operates all over Australia. Once he has done his 6 months trial, he will be moved wherever they see fit. There is a possibility that will be back to our current city, but there is just as much chance it will be any other town or city in the country.
I think that was all of the questions
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14-02-2012 05:59 #31
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14-02-2012 06:59 #32Our family is complete!
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It sounds like you have made up your mind to go. Good luck with your new adventure!
My advice, from someone who is married to a man who works long hours....get out and meet people. Join a gym, go to classes of any sort that interest you, get a casual job, go back to studying....get out and meet people!! Find something that you want to do to fill in your time...working or studying. It gets lonely being on your own sometimes, but it's far less lonely when you have things to fill in your day.
My other bit of advice, have a date night. No matter what is going on with DH's work he comes home on a Friday night (sometimes he doesn't make it until 8pm but he aims for 6pm) and we order in Thai food and catch up on our week together and have our 'date' (three kids so we don't go out, just put them to bed at 7pm). It's our favourite night of the week and we both look forward to it every week.
It will be a hard adjustment, from him working 9-5 mon to fri to it feeling like he is never around but you do get used to it.
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14-02-2012 09:01 #34Senior Member
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What a difficult decision. IS there any way you can work from your new home/remotely? Even if you travel up once a week/fortnight or is it too far?
Another option is to get your private pilots license and fly yourself. No I am not joking. It is doable.
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14-02-2012 09:47 #35
I like Simplymum and Luey's ideas. Compromise! Given your central role at your current job, and since they sound so flexible, is there a chance that they could create a job for you where you will be moving to? Even to work from home? This may or may not be possible with your particular job.
And if not, then there's the option already mentioned of taking 6 months leave to have a trial period.
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16-02-2012 13:12 #36
is there any chance that you could move but work from afar via Skype/video conferencing or something?
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16-02-2012 21:41 #37
LOL SimplyMum! I like it!
Well, just a quick update ...
We are going to do it! Full steam ahead - no looking back!
The people at my work are currently trying to figure out if I can still be involved in some capacity, and perhaps take a portion of my role with me, which is AMAZING! I still don't know if it will even be possible, but I am stoked that they are even thinking about it
If not, I think I am going to go back to studying ... you know, in my breaks from lying on the beach drinking cocktails
Thank you all for your responses - you have been a wonderful support for me
I have passed the apprehensive/scared stage, and now I am uber excited!
16-02-2012 21:56 #38
Good on you! I look forward to hearing how amazing it is going to be!!! New chapters in our life are often scary, well done on being brave!!
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