"oh how hard can it be taking care of your DD?? mine was easy!!"
" you need to teach her to get used to crowds, settle in a pram.. you've ruined her habits!!"
'' stop holding her so much !!''
''teach her to sleep on her own...stop rocking/feeding her to sleep ''
Swear to god if I hear one more f***ing relative say these comments.. IM GONNA PUNCH EM!!!
Why cant people understand that every baby is different? That when a baby has had BAD colic and reflux,crying in ain 24/7 ,than they need to be held ,and yes ,they get used to being held ? why dont you understand my dear sil that your DD did not have these issues and learned HERSELF to self settle and start sleeping through the night!!! IT WASNT YOU!!. Oh im sorry my DD doesnt like crowds...thats just her! I stayed indoors for 4months till she got over her reflux&colic.. ofcourse taking her out now after sooo long she needs time to get used to crowds!! and need I remind you all that I had been to 2 wedding and 3 lunch and dinners but everytime we had to leave as DD got very unsettled (which puts me off going out with her)..IM TRYING ARNT I!!!
Why do relatives drive you INSANE!!!! Is it my faults that all of DH neices and nephews were well behaved babies with no colic/reflux and my DD is the only one thats has had both, doesnot settle well and still waked 2hrly at night!!
It doesnt help that DH tells his famiily off when they say such things as he can see how it stresses me out.. but still doesnt stop them!!
Oh and than the snide (sp?) comments like my sil saying ''oh i've named your DD rapunzal because shes always locked away in a tower nd we dont see her that much ''... seriously!! my every inlaw knows that i end up staying in a room with DD whenevr I go to anyones place as shes either crying in pain, or just whingy..
Sorry this is more of a vent.. now i feel better ..
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10-02-2012 16:31 #1
Annoying family members comments..
10-02-2012 16:36 #2
My mil is famous for saying "the man brings in the money the woman makes the home" heeelllllllloooooooo she didn't work longer hours then her dh - oh wait - she didnt work AT ALL!!!
10-02-2012 16:42 #3
Samar I don't need to write one as you did it spot on for me, word for word. I am sooooo with you !!!!
10-02-2012 17:01 #4
"you know Pippy, when your baby is here you can't just go leaving dirty dishes around the house, it is so so so bad"...
Referring to me leaving my cereal bowl in my room until I stack the dish washer every night. Lol....
Dishes come out of the room every day without fail. No huge dramas but I hate to be made to feel like I'm a filthy person because I leave ONE bowl in my room for the day. Hahaha.
10-02-2012 17:56 #5
how horrid! Just tell them it's YOUR turn to parent!!! But on the off side have you looked into probiotics for the reflux? I was talking to our naturalist dr yesterday and she is booked into check dd3 and said her sudden reflux could be a change in gut flora, clearly not as bad as yours but thought you may not of heard about it... You poor hun, showing your baby love and care is NOT spoiling! She can't communicate with words so she is crying. X
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10-02-2012 18:00 #6
"oh I loved my pregnancies, I don't know what you worry about" -Shut the hell up.
"crying is good for a baby's lungs, it helps them develop" -I have some medical books that might shock you.
"just go to the bank and get a home loan, it's not that hard, I did it" -yeah 30 yrs ago when u only paid $30K for a 3 bedroom.
I'm sure there's more....
10-02-2012 18:04 #7
And OP, I copped comments like that too as DD had repux. The whole "making a rod for your own back" thing. You do what your instincts tell you to do, that's what I did and she's a happy, healthy, thriving 2 yr old that oozes confidence. Don't doubt yourself, take in the info that counts and discard the rest
10-02-2012 18:06 #8
"you've spoilt her by holding her, let her cry" ... newborn onwards
"she's like that because you were a sole parent" ... my alltime favourite from MIL
"just keep taking her back to her bed, don't give in" ... sigh
Sent from my mobile device so please excuse my typing missed cakes.
10-02-2012 18:12 #9
Thanks everyone for your replies! Shinebrite-- i am considering trying probiotics;i've read afew good things about them .
I wouldnt care but when your exhausted,sleep deprived with a whingy baby...the last thing you want to hear are such comments!! Im so thankful DH is immensly suportive of me and always defends me
10-02-2012 18:27 #10
" oh you should have bf herb not taken your anti deps would have been better for her " I bit my tongue but felt like screaming wtf woman shuttup
The classic from MIL "to be happy he needs to come home to a clean house n a hot meal" I went right off my handle at that One
Oh and the other annoying " don't make him (DS 5 ) eat he's not hungry " sure cause u know better than I do only having spent all day with him
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