I'm 23 weeks with #2 and I don't know what to do for the birth. I had my first hospital appointment 2 weeks ago and I told the doctor I wanted to try naturally, however the more I think about it and talk to people, the more I don't know what to do...
I've also been suffering from severe back pain throughout my pregnancy and the pain is just doing my head in now!! A friend told me she got to about 38 weeks with severe back pain and called the hospital and demanded an emergency c-section because she couldn't handle the pain anymore...
My husband works away, so having an exact date would be an advantage so he can book his time off and ensure he is home for the birth... and I've had friends elect c-sections because they believe it's "easier"... I mentioned it to DH once and he got mad saying why would you choose a major operation when your body was 'made' to give birth naturally... However, now he says it's my body so it's up to me and he'll support either way...
I'm worried about the pain of natural (my DS's birth 10 years ago was pain free due to excellent pethadene and epidural!!!) but i'm worried about the after pain and discomfort of a c-section... (my SIL had a bad experience with a scar that wouldn't heal properly!!)
I'm worried about needing an episiotomy or tearing with a natural ( I didn't need any stiches with DS) but then the major surgery of a c-section worries me as well...
A natural birth is pretty much over after you've given birth, but you have the healing process of a c-section...
I don't know what to do.... please share your stories??
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10-02-2012 06:46 #1
Natural VS Caesarian
10-02-2012 07:00 #2Senior Member
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I have never had a c section and with this last baby I was worried about having to have an emergency one he has a history of large babies and c- sections in his family, with him the Dr toldhis mom there is no way your having him naturally I was so worried and told my husband to be prepared for a fight if they mention one, I had her just fine vaginally but on that note I have always been for natural/vaginal births comparing my sister who had 2 elective c sections
I was healed up and walking around the day holding my baby picking her up etc my sister was not allowed to pick up the baby for like 6-8 weeks she could hold him but lifting was a no no, she had stitches I did not ( i did for the first one but couldnt notice), she has a groovy scar I do not, her recovery was longer as the muscles and stuff had to heal I was grocery shopping the day I got out of the hospital with the first, went to work the day after I got out of the hospital with 3rd, walked 2 miles to the hospital with 2nd for a check up and went shopping at Target with my 4th the day I was released, my sister was in bed and in pain for weeks. I was able to take her in my arms seconds after birth and breast feed her and have skin to skin contact alone with hubby my sister couldnt because she had to be closed up etc. So there is my thoughts.
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10-02-2012 07:09 #3
I personally would never elect to have a cesarean, for a few reasons. Firstly because it carries far more risks for me the mothers. Secondly because it carries alot more risks for my baby. Third because there is a much longer healing period and fourth because I definitely do not think that major abdominal surgery is an easier option than a natural vaginal birth.
I had an emergency cesarean with my first. After a 28hr labor and the cascade of intervention and it was very traumatic for me. I believe that it led to my getting PND and having to be re-hospitalised for that. I was in alot of pain afterwards and was on alot of pain medication, I am not too sure how much of that goes through the breast milk to the baby.
16 months later I had a completely natural vaginal birth and it was fantastic. I still got a 3rd degree tear, but that was still easier to heal from than a cesarean. I was still able to get up and shower and walk around and easily take care of my baby without needing to call someone into the room just to pass her to me from the basinette.
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10-02-2012 07:10 #4
I birthed 9lb8oz ds naturally. I had gas and used bath, shower & heat l
Packs for pain relief. Contractions were worst in my back (posterior) but I'm so glad I did it that way.
I was going to tear sideways so agreed to an episiotomy - which I was given a local and did not feel a thing including the stitches. However, my stitches split open and I struggled with the pain for about 4 - 6 weeks.
After all that I'm planning to go natural again with number 2 :-)
Ultimately it comes down to your body - your decision. Good luck
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10-02-2012 07:26 #5
After having an emergency csection I would never elect to have one. Unfortunately I have to this time as I have placenta praevia & breech baby. I would always opt for trial of labour if it was safe for baby. There will be pain, no matter how baby comes out.
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10-02-2012 07:28 #6Senior Member
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*I* wouldn't opt for an elective caesar. I have had two completely natural, drug free births with only minimal 'grazing' (no stitches). I went for a brisk 40 min walk the day after my second was born I felt that good!
HOWEVER, I have 4 friends who have opted for elective caesars in the last year and ALL of them have really enjoyed their experiences and don't regret a thing. None of them have given birth vaginally so obviously they don't have anything to compare their caesar births to. Their recoveries were all fine, just a few days of pain killers but all were up and about and moving and walking normally within a few days. For THEM they made the right decisions. Their reasoning for choosing elective caesars was
a) two had traumatic first time labours that ended in emergency caesars which meant that for their second bubs they could choose elective and not need to experience another labour which was important to them
b) one had a caesar for her first child because of GD, and elected to c-sec second bub because she felt she had such a good experience the first time and giving birth vaginally wasn't something she felt she needed to experience *however she has said since that she MAY consider a VBA2C if she went back for a third
c) the other friend chose her c-sec for her only bub so far becuase she just didn't want to give birth vaginally. She has a low pain tolerance and just felt more comfortable with a c-sec.
You just need to research ALL options thoroughly so that you can make an informed decision that you are comfortable with. I have heard that the book Hail Caesar is a fantastic book for those wanting or needing c-secs.
Good luck :-)
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10-02-2012 07:38 #7Senior Member
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I had an emergency c/section after a failed induction with my twins. It had to be under general as my contractions were so close together they couldn't get the spinal in. Everyone met my DD's before me and that is something I can never get back. I hated recovery, it was extremely painful trying to tandem breastfeed my girls and I was exhausted.
I am actually scared of needing to have another c/s. I'd much rather a natural labour, my last was very intense and drug free up until the emergency c/s and I'd still rather that pain then recovering from a c/s.
Just an after thought too, your topic name will most likely start a debate...
10-02-2012 07:40 #8
It's your body an ultimately your choice. There are risks with either choice, you just need to weigh up what, in YOUR opinion, are the risks you're willing to take. But don't look at it all from a risk point of view either. Will you regret it if you don't birth naturally? Some women experience feelings of loss or being cheated out of their birthing experience by c-sections. What kind of birth do you want to have?
I am an elective c-sectioning mumma but I don't like to push that as a one size fits all option because it's not. In some ways a c-section is easier, but in a lot of ways it's much harder. The birth is easy, but the recovery is longer. The pain is manageable though. If you have any c-section questions, just ask
10-02-2012 07:53 #9
Given a choice, a drug free natural birth is for me. Having said that, I was aware of all options and associated risks and wasn't against any other way if something happened and another way turned out safer. Luckily I got what I aimed for.
10-02-2012 09:09 #10Senior Member
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I had an elective c-section for ds and i found the recovery to be quite quick. I had him at 7.00am and i was up showered and walking around that afternoon. My baby stayed with me the whole time, my milk came in at day 3. The first 2 days were the worst but after that i only really needed the odd panadol.
All and all i had a really good experience and wouldn't have any hesitations
having another elective c-section with the next bub
Goodluck in what ever delivery you choose
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