I am trying to make a decision about my son's sport.
I am writing here to see if other people have any other ideas or comments that can help.
Ok..so Ronald is 9. He plays soccer for a pretty high up team. He is pretty good.
They train 3 times a week for an 1 and 1/2 hours, and play every weekend.
The training is about 30km from my house.
I require a Nanny to pick up Agnes as I cannot be at her school and get Ronald to soccer.
Ronald LOVES soccer.
This year he is in year 4 and school work is getting way more. Last year he won an academic award and also has shown interest in art and choir.
In the soccer team there are some incredible players..they are so gifted. DS is not like them but he compares himself constantly. He is a great player but these kids get private coaching and everything.
It is very competitive and there is a lot of bullying.
We have seen a huge drop in Ronalds confidence.
Soooo DH and I are thinking of pulling him out.
We want him to love soccer and we think that playing for the local club might be good for him. He will be around similar players and less ego.
But he loves it and says he does not want to leave.
He comes home from training feeling down, yet wants to go back.
My feeling is that he will feel the same in a few weeks at the new soccer team but without the lows.
I am going to make the decision by friday. Thats when the rego is due.
so ...what do you think? do i listen to Ronald or go with my gut?
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08-02-2012 08:52 #1-
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what to do..kids sport.
08-02-2012 09:03 #2Senior Member
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At his age I think it's good if he has a choice, but it sounds like a terrible environment for him. Perhaps contact the club and see if he can do a training or 2 with them, maybe after that he will love it and not want to go back to the other club?
08-02-2012 09:13 #3
I agree. If he's adamant about the team he's already in, maybe just take him to the other teams training a few times, and he might change his mind. Maybe he wants to stay in his team because they're a higher side? But I would be trying to get him to go to his local team.
08-02-2012 12:51 #4
My DH loves soccer and has always played a lot since a young child, including in a semi pro team during Uni. For him, as much as he loves the sport, he loves the social aspect of being part of a team more. He has life long friends from many of the teams he has been in over the years, and has been able to use the communication and social skills he has learnt in many work situations too. He would always choose playing with a "good bunch of lads" to playing for the best team.
I would try to get your DS to join a team which makes he feel good about himself and where he can also enjoy playing the sport. Does he know anyone in the local team?
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08-02-2012 12:57 #5-
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Thanks so much.
He does not know anyone in the local team.
But, every friday night they have drinks and movie nights.
The kids play football and watch movies while the parents...socialise...
so I am sure he will meet people.
His school is 20km away from home so it would be nice for him to meet some local kids too.
I think I will pull the plug. I want him to continue to love soccer , I dont want it to become something that makes him feel low.
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