I'm not sure why people would opt for a cs if there is no medical reason too, I know some stars have cs " too posh to push" or fear doing damage down there.
For me I would not select to have major surgery if there is no reason to. Even after a 33hr longstressful horrible labour with ds1, it didn't make me feel like I wanted a cs next time and i didn't. My second labour was a breeze, 4hrs. And although I had 2 episiotomies everything went bavk to normal down there and i don't have any scarring.
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04-02-2012 16:05 #21
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I think you may be talking about my post! I'm considering it as an option. I would be very willing to endure the pain of labour if I knew there was a hole the correct size bub was about to be pushed through! o_0
I know cs has a longer recovery, but it eliminates some of the long term problems that can arise from vb. I know the horror stories are rarer that the "normal" deliveries, but it's still a risk.
The reason I think I'll be judged is that my mum always bangs on about how easy giving birth was. 3-5 hour labours, no tearing etc. she thinks why the hell would anyone put themselves through a cs when a vb is so "easy." sil and mil only had vbs too.
I know it's my choice and I should ignore them, but it makes me feel judged.
04-02-2012 16:12 #23
04-02-2012 16:15 #24
Oh one comment I remember on here very well was something about if you weren't intending to push your baby out then you shouldn't have got pregnant . There are risks associated no matter which way you give birth. It is up to you which risks you are happy to take.
I chose a c-section for a few reasons none of which was that I was "too posh to push" (stupid line if you ask me).
Most of my reasons were psychological, actually all my reasons were. So once people find that out you get well you should have got counselling to have your baby vaginally. Well I did not want to have counselling about, nor do I now. I had some things happen when I was a younger girl which has lead to all this. I have never had a pap smear for the same reasons I had a c-section.
I did not find the recovery bad/traumatic at all. I found the pain manageable and I was still able to do things I did before a c-section just at a slower pace for a while. I now have 2 lines across my undie line, which can only be seen up close. No one except DP see it anyway.
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04-02-2012 16:15 #25
04-02-2012 16:24 #26
Failed induction resulting in an emergency cs with my first.
Was planning on a vbac with my second but towards the end of the pregnancy she started to engage incorrectly and her head was pressing on.the nerves at the base of my spine and i could hardly work. I changed my mind at the last minute and had an elective cs.
I was planning on having a vba2c with my third in the early stages of pregnancy. This was not allowed by my hospital. But the pregnancy almost broke me so i was glad to have an elective cs at 38 weeks.
I am all for women making informed choices when it comes to childbirth and c sections. Caesaerans are not always awful experiences and i feel that if a woman wants one -after being fully informed of the procedure and risks - she should be entitled to one. Everyone seems to go on about 'her body/baby, her choice' with elective c/s being the exception to that rule. You shouldn't have to justify and Qualify. If that's the birth experience you want then you should have it. There should be no guilt or shame attached to c/s.
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04-02-2012 16:25 #27
^^ Tears which have occurred naturally actually heal better and quicker than cuts, and apparently hurt less...just sayin'.
04-02-2012 16:29 #28Senior Member
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I was considering an elective c - sect for my first pregnancy because I had been through alot of trauma caused from other medical reasons not pregnancy and I couldn't mentally cope with a vag birth going wrong, after a lot of research I decided I wanted a natural water birth but unfortunately that option was taken away from me when I needed a c -sect for medical reasons.
I posted on here about wanting an elective c -sect and it was absolutely disgusting I got attacked so badly I even got rude private msgs!!!
Was so shocking how mothers on here could be soo nasty.....
I still don't get why ppl care how another mother chooses to birth her baby??!
Any way a lot of ppl were saying I was very selfish for wanting a c -sect as they believed it was very dangerous for the baby.
04-02-2012 16:30 #29
Oh and seriously if i hear 'too posh to push' one more time i may scream! Those people have obviously never had a needle injected into their spine or tried to recover from major abdominal surgery with a newborn baby. Too posh indeed.
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04-02-2012 16:30 #30Senior Member
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My CS was for medical reasons, but was classed as elective. I believe there are many like that.
Despite that, now that I have had a CS I can definitely see why women would choose to give birth that way.
I did find it quite painless, and the recovery for me was straightforward. I was quite surprised at how 'not in pain' I felt afterwards!
I think I would elect to have a CS next time, as I had such a good experience the first time around, and I also believe that it would be a lower risk option than a VBAC.
I am also a big believer in the fact that once your baby is out then it really doesn't matter which way it came out, as long as mum and baby are happy and healthy. If it makes you happy to have a VB then do that (haha - the birth, not the beer), and the same goes for a CS.
I think that many of these comments that are made about women who have had CS or drug assisted births are really down to an unpleasant kind of competitiveness that can sometimes exist between us. Unfortunately there are lots of these contentious topics from pregnancy onwards, and it can sometimes be hard to ignore them, but I think the only way to stay sane is to try to see them for what they are and do what suits you best!
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