We have a level system in place, depending on the severity of the behaviour/issue there might be a warning, time out on the step, taking something away (like a ds) and a smack is the last level. Both my kids generally no longer go any further than the step.
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03-02-2012 08:43 #101
03-02-2012 09:16 #102
(and sorry - on a parenting forum ..a subject like this isn't going to have just 'yes or no' answers ...plus what a freaking boring thread THAT would make! A page full of yes, no, no ,yes, no, no,yes , yes, yes ... pretty sure it can be 'discussed' ..people have their reasons FOR and reasons AGAINST and they should be able to say so -- I think anyway)
So that was my short answer up there "no."
buuut... my not so short answer is... No - I don't use smakcing as a form of discipline -- I am also human though and can count in one hand the times I HAVE reacted and smacked my children...
Once was when DS1 was about 10 months - I as a new mum, and going by what all of those around me do and suggest - 'tapped' my sons hand for repeatedly opening teh dvd drawer - his little face looked so shattered - I picked him up and cuddled him, feeling sick in my stomach - thought 'far out..he is only a baby , having fun and exploring - why the fruck did I do that *dry retch*'
Another time was just recently when DS2 was lying down with my giving me a cuddle at bedtime and he snapped and scratched my face - my reaction was a whack - I didn't even think about it - my hand just did it. It was like when you knock on your knee cap and you leg reflex it to kick out.
Smacking is infact illegal in a lot of countries and those countries don't ALL have major 'out of control' issues as a result.
I would be furious if a teacher smacked my child, I would be very cranky if my parents or DPs parents smakced my children and I would be pretty much livid if a friend or othermother at the park smacked my children. -- so I choose not to do it myself.
03-02-2012 09:18 #103Senior Member
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5ITB that's why I think it's better to have a blanket law regarding physical punishment. I don't hold strong opinions on those who do smack their children but boy have I seen children BELTED with their parents hands on their behind. And because it's considered "smacking" - it's perfectly legal!
03-02-2012 09:20 #104
no, we don't smack here.
03-02-2012 09:30 #105
Yes. Recently tried to smack my 12 year old. But she raised her arm in her defense so with an arm in the way and a toddler on my hip in all my fury I decide to kick her. I kicked as hard as I could with a bare foot and hit her shin bone. I swear my foot broke and I limped for 2 days. She left the scene rolling her eyes at me. What did I learn? That I desperately need to brush up on some karate moves.
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03-02-2012 10:04 #108Senior Member
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I've heard that share a book. I've still seen children belted under those circumstances. What I consider a belting anyway.
I know when DP and I muck around and we 'smack' each other (you know, just mucking around in the kitchen) he gets me in this spot at the top of my backside and OUCH, it REALLY stings... like, we need to stop playing stings. Doesn't leave a mark.
I think a lot of children would feel this at times, too.
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03-02-2012 10:07 #109
03-02-2012 10:08 #110
A smack is also not meant to cause pain, nothing more than a single, firm jolt. Again, I wonder how accurate the results are if people have different thought on what a smack is.
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