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02-02-2012 22:40 #91
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02-02-2012 22:45 #93
No, absolutely not!
02-02-2012 23:09 #94Senior Member
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02-02-2012 23:13 #95Senior Member
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I have smacked, but it wasn't about discipline, it was my frustration and I can never justify it.
02-02-2012 23:34 #96
No, and I won't ever.
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02-02-2012 23:42 #97
I give my husband a good wallop from time to time. Keeps him in his place.
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02-02-2012 23:59 #98
Myself and my two siblings were never smacked and we all turned out fine, however later in life I wondered at how my parents got such well behaved children without the use of this ancient discipline and I realised that they made us really feel bad if we did something they didn't approve of.
So much so, that now when I do something wrong I am horrified at myself, I feel sick with guilt and so avoid doing anything wrong all of the time. I am a classic goody two shoes.
Unfortunately I feel this way even when I just make a simple mistake. So I wonder, would it have been better to have a slight cringe at remembered pain when I do things wrong, then to be saddled with this self-discipline of sickening guilt and horror, that can last all day just for a simple error?
Probably often smacks are also accompanied by the same emotions so maybe I'd be the same but with a pain cringe as well. But I think my story is food for thought when children are disciplined, a child might not be smacked but may be made to feel unreasonably bad about their not quite right behaviours.
There probably should be some balance, if you're not smacking, are you making them feel really really bad, or is your non-smacking discipline quick short and effective, and not causing lasting emotional damage?
I definitely think you can discipline without smacking, but I think I will have to be very careful how I do that if/when I have kids of my own, because I don't want them to be as stressed out as an adult as I am!
03-02-2012 07:13 #99
I did but always on the bottom with him braced against my leg so there was no jarring. Having said that, we didn't need to do it often as he was a good kid. The funniest was he threw a tantrum in Franklins and we told him to stop or we would smack is bare bum he didn't, so we did. Never had to do it again because he knew we would do it. Also 'Smacking Games', he'd hit us so we hit him back softly, and if he hit again we'd go "Oh, Smacking Games" and every time he hit us we hit him harder, only on the hand though. We won that one too.
Most of the time the tone of our voice was enough to stop him and he was a very well behaved child and has grown into a wonderful young man:-)
03-02-2012 08:11 #100
My Dh would be all for smacking but doesn't , as I am the one doing most of the disciplining throughout the day.
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This was topic was on The Today Show this morning.
I reckon they scour parenting forums for topics from time to time, happens too often.
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