Smacking

[sunnymummy]

I don't hit my husband, parents, sibling, friends, workmates or strangers.

Why would I hit my babies?

[Deserama]

Wouldn't that make this a dreadfully dull thread? Yes yes yes no yes no no no yes no ...

Yep...so?

Would mean that we'd be able to keep the self rightenousness out of it.

[Mill]

Nope. No smacking in our house.

But I'm curious... what discipline do other non-smackers use for dangerous behaviour? DS has started playing with power points. He even tries to poke things into them. Just using those safety plugs isn't enough... he needs to learn that he simply can't play with them.

[Gothel]

I was smacked as a child and TBH it didn't make me behave, it just made me more careful not to be caught!

Myself and my two siblings were never smacked and we all turned out fine, however later in life I wondered at how my parents got such well behaved children without the use of this ancient discipline and I realised that they made us really feel bad if we did something they didn't approve of.

So much so, that now when I do something wrong I am horrified at myself, I feel sick with guilt and so avoid doing anything wrong all of the time. I am a classic goody two shoes.

But this ^^^ I totally agree with. My BFF and her Mum were like this, she behaved herself rather than worry about the 'threat' of her mothers wrath... so much so that now in her late 30's she still bends over backwards to keep the family happy.

[Pawzette]

I don't hit my husband, parents, sibling, friends, workmates or strangers.

Why would I hit my babies?

I never understood this argument. Do you actually discipline those above mentioned people? If timeout is your means for discipline, do you put those above mentioned people in timeout? If not, then why to your kids... It just doesn't make sense.

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[Benji]

Nope. No smacking in our house.

But I'm curious... what discipline do other non-smackers use for dangerous behaviour? DS has started playing with power points. He even tries to poke things into them. Just using those safety plugs isn't enough... he needs to learn that he simply can't play with them.

When DS was younger I always had the belief that if he was in a dangerous situation it was a result of my poor behaviour, not his.

I would move furniture in front of powerpoints, have NO small things in his reach, never leave him unattended. I found the smaller, clear point covers to be much more secure than the large white ones. I struggle to get them off.

Had safety protectors on the stove, never left boiling water unattended, cooked with the back burners where possible. I held his hand every time we were to cross a road or were near a busy road.

And nag about safety. I'm a lecturer when it comes to safety.

[GothChick]

When DS was younger I always had the belief that if he was in a dangerous situation it was a result of my poor behaviour, not his.

I would move furniture in front of powerpoints, have NO small things in his reach, never leave him unattended. I found the smaller, clear point covers to be much more secure than the large white ones. I struggle to get them off.

Had safety protectors on the stove, never left boiling water unattended, cooked with the back burners where possible. I held his hand every time we were to cross a road or were near a busy road.

And nag about safety. I'm a lecturer when it comes to safety.

Yep, agree with all this.

[FiveInTheBed]

I never understood this argument. Do you actually discipline those above mentioned people? If timeout is your means for discipline, do you put those above mentioned people in timeout? If not, then why to your kids... It just doesn't make sense.

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"I" don't discipline those people -- but the law does.

...if I was caught speeding - something I KNOW is wrong, I've been told before and am aware of the danger... would it be alright for a cop to pull me over and whack me on the bum!?

Or do you think taking my money in the form of a fine or license away for for a few months might be more appropriate?




The last time my 5 year old HIT - (as in punched him in the back !!) my 6 year old (this morning to be exact ) ..I warned him that if he was a big person - chances are he would be having the police called on him and charges for assualt being laid.
This isn't to make him afraid of police - but to make him aware that we have certain boundaries in our society.

[BlissedOut]

Nope. No smacking in our house.

But I'm curious... what discipline do other non-smackers use for dangerous behaviour? DS has started playing with power points. He even tries to poke things into them. Just using those safety plugs isn't enough... he needs to learn that he simply can't play with them.

I don't believe my kids have the intellectual maturity required to know power points are dangerous and why. So I supervise them in areas where there are dangerous things.

As they get older I will explain why and the consequences of sticking a knife in a power point, but before then it's my job to keep them out of danger as I'm the one with the understanding of danger and natural consequences.

[Speedy]

Babies and children are evolutionarily primed to listen to adults and treat them as their leaders. Though they do make bids for independence, as social animals, we still do have pack mentality and you are the leaders of your pack. So what you do is emphasise that certain behaviours are not okay and just keep reiterating it. You may sound like a broken record but it'll eventually sink in. With things that are an immediate danger though, like power points and cook-top hobs and that the like, you have to remove the child or the dangerous element. Child locks, power point guards, etc. Baby proofing your home when they are too young to understand things is pretty important unless you are with them all the time.