That sounds like a very fair set up Beachside of 50/50, it's not often a father will agree to that figure so good for him.
I guess while the new CS equals 100% of the child's expenses, it will mean his child can have an even better quality of life just as the children you have together will have now he has a pay raise
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31-01-2012 21:13 #64
Like share a book said the payer just needs to focus on the fact that they are helping to support for their child and that's what's important.
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31-01-2012 21:17 #65
All this talk of 'choice'. I moved interstate with my child as my rent just went up again leaving me with $30 a week total. With no childcare or family support, I wasn't really left with many choices.
I haven't bothered putting in a new CS assessment as yet, he hasn't paid in over a year anyway so what's the point. Meanwhile, my payment gets REDUCED based upon the amount CSA assesses him to pay.
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31-01-2012 21:50 #67
I agree that it sucks when a parent moves away with the child, thus making it harder for the non-custodial parent to see their child regularly... etc etc...
However, sometimes there's a good reason to move away. A very good reason. If I had been forced to stay in the area my ex and I lived in, I would... probably live on the street. We lived right next to the city, and there was no way in hell as a single mother on Centrelink benefits alone, that I could afford that kind of rent. Even the cheap, scummy places were far too expensive for me to even consider. It was okay as a couple - not as a single parent though.
I HAD to move... not so far away he couldn't see her, but that's only because I moved in with my mother, and she happened to be only about an hour away. If she had been interstate, I would have had to have moved there, because I didn't see any money from Centrelink for about a month after we split (I got my forms in the DAY I left him)... I had no other choice but to rely on my mother.
Some people HAVE to move to find work too. Ideally, a child would live close to both parents, and both would be able to be employed in an area that saw them making what they deserve to earn... but sometimes options are limited and one party has to move. Or else rely solely on benefits, which is not ideal, especially for an extended period.
SOME people might move just to be jerks, just to make seeing their child difficult for the other parent... but I would assume that MOST who move, do so for a decent reason.
My ex was horrible to me, and I didn't want him in my life, but acknowledged that he needed to be for my daughter's sake, and thus he was welcome to come and get her for a visit WHENEVER he wanted.
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31-01-2012 22:05 #69
What angers me the most about CSA is that 2nd families are worth so much less.
My brother is a "2nd child family" from my step fathers marriage to mum. He has 3 older children from his first wife. When he was born his arrival into the family and importantly step fathers financially responsibility wasn't accounted for at all.
When my mum and step father separated. They valued my brothers cs at $31 a week and the older three were well over $200 a week. Because step father owed money to his first wife most of the money he paid additionally for my brother was taken and give to his first wife so was given $3.60 for my brother. CSA said that the first family came first and once he paid his debt than they will than pay her my brothers full cs and work on his debt for my brother as that would accumulate as he was paying for my brother but paying debt. We worked it out that it would take step father 14 years to pay the debt to first wife and my brother would be 21 when mum would start getting a full payment!
I think all children from fob should be treated equally. Step father has also avoided doing his tax for the last 4 years to avoid paying more cs as he now earns more the $20k what CSA estimates. They should be required to do tax annually by CSA or face a heavy fine
31-01-2012 22:17 #70
I agree LPH that all children should get the same amount. They are all as important as each other. When you have 2 women seperated from the father then that's not fair.
But what's also not fair is when a man repartners and has more kids, then his CS to the children of the previous relationship gets reduced. He ultimately decides to create more children, which is his right 100% but the previous children shouldn't be disadvantaged. If you can't afford the child support of your already born kids don't have anymore. Some would say that's unfair, but it's also unfair for the children to miss out bc the father has decided to have more.
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