DS is breastfed. He is 1 week short of 4 mths old and is 10 kgs in weight. Up untill last week he was on me feeding all the time hourly...exhausting. Now he has stretched out to 2-3 hrs during the day, he goes down around 7:30pm, i dream feed him at 11 he wakes between 2-3 i feed him and he seems to want to feed hourly again untill 6 takes a break amd starts again at 8....im wrecked to say the least!
Any ideas on dropping some of the night feeding, i dont do CC.
Thanks in advance!
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25-01-2012 21:02 #1
4mo how much should he be feeding at night?
25-01-2012 21:11 #2
Sounds like my little one except I've got no clue on how many times and at what time she feeds... All I know is it won't last, your only 2m off solids, things may start to slow down then? Can you get a sleep during the day? A quick hlf hour sleep web hubby comes in the door or co sleep? That's how I 'get thru' just know ur not alone my sweets, it really is hard and doesn't last hugs Hun xxx
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26-01-2012 01:00 #3
I have a very sleepy baby. He's nearly five months but he was sleeping through the night at four months waking about twice a night for a feed. He would feed about every 3 - 4 hours in the day for a total of 5 -6 feed in 24 hours. If your bub seems happy then just keep going for it. Can you express so your hubby could do a feed for you so you can fit in a nap? Is it possible for you to feed him a bit longer at each feed so he gets more hindmilk to keep him fuller longer?
on keeping up the demanding schedule your bub is setting for you!
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26-01-2012 03:24 #4
Have you tried resettling at night before offering a feed? He could be waking out of habit, not hunger?
My sister had this exact problem with her DD at this age (among other things) and had to go to sleep school. They recommended not offering a feed every time she woke overnight, but resettle or give dummy etc Their opinion was if it was true hunger, then you wouldn't be able to resettle without a feed anyway - or bubs would wake up soon after in which case you knew to feed instead.
It worked for my sister, her DD starting going 4hrs overnight instead of every 1-2 within a few days. Just a suggestion anyway.....Goodluck.
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26-01-2012 05:09 #5
they are due for a growth spurt around 4 months so it could be a result of that of well. My baby used to want to feed constantly before going down for the night but now i feed him & then rock him to sleep & then transfer him to the cot. Its a bit of a pain but he now sleeps through the night (8 hours or so) whereas he used to wake every 2 hours), I think alot of it had to with reflux as well, reflux babies often want to feed alot to calm themselves.
Hope u find a solution, it can be very tiring feeding them all the time, but sounds like you are doing a great job.
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27-01-2012 20:29 #6
10kg! Wowsa, my nearly 10mo has just hit 10kg. What happens if you drop that dream feed? Might it give you a longer stretch of sleep before he starts waking hourly? My ds still does the hourly thing from 3am onwards so I just bring him into my bed haha.
27-01-2012 20:50 #7
My DS breastfed til 9 months, every 30 freaking minutes! It's horribly exhausting! I even tried formula as I felt so drained and worried he wasn't getting enough but he would still want me after! He is now 3 and still sleeps in my bed, he has to be IN my arms and snuggled close and it's still exhausting. Don't know what I'm gonna do with a new baby as he is still a light sleeper and wakes up if I just get up to pee or to sneak out to the spare (to be baby's) room with the mattress on the floor and follows me.
Hope u sort something out soon. I feel for you xxx
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27-01-2012 20:52 #8
PS we did sleep school and it was horrible and didn't work for him at all.
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27-01-2012 23:26 #9
I BF both my kids and they were totally different! DS would wake 4 hourly for a feed - not matter if it was night or day. DD slept through the night (6 hours) at 5 weeks.
When you are exhausted it is hard to see straight. But let me help the best I can - he does NOT need to be fed hourly! There are two things I think you should be doing.
Firstly, do not offer him the breast when he wakes. He is using it to resettle himself. (Don't let other people convince you that because you have a big baby he needs extra feeds - I had two big babies and they don't!). It will be very hard at first - especially when you feel like crap, but persevere and do not offer him the breast until 4 hours after his last feed. Pat him, rock him, sing to him, offer him water in a bottle. He will kick up a fuss, but remain strong. After 3 nights he will get the message. Then start stretching it out to 5 hours, 6 hours, etc.
The way to help him self settle is (a) allow him to cry a bit before you go to him at night - about 3 minutes. Then (b) go to his room, don't turn on the light, tell him you will pat him if he lays down quietly. Lay him down, pat him until he is sleepy. If he wont lay down, leave the room. This will make him cry harder at first. (c) Count to 10, then re-enter, tell him softly to lay down and you will pat him. Continue to leave/re-enter until he lays down. If at any time he becomes hysterical, give up, pick him up and cuddle him (feed him if he is really bad) then put him back to bed and restart at (a) the next time he wakes. Hopefully after two nights he will get this gist and self settle.
The other thing is that if you are "dropping" BFs during the night, you need to make them up in the day. Schedule extra times when you sit down and offer him a feed.
And I know the common advice is to hold off solids until 6 months, but sometimes bubs just wants something to gnore on. I don't count it as solids until I am spooning it into their mouths. I used to give my babies at 4 months a crust of my toast for them to chew on. And a mesh feeding bag! They are magic! You can put melon and soft fruits in them and bubs will suck at them through the bag. DD used to scream blue-murder when I tried to take it off her to refill it with another piece of melon!
But I guess what I am trying to say is at 4 months he should be able to go down at 7pm, dream feed at 11pm (if that is what you want) then make it at least 6 hours. DD I used to put down at 8pm, she would wake for a feed at 2am then sleep through to 8am. And this was at 3 months!
28-01-2012 07:57 #10Senior Member
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It is the same night routine as my 4.5 month old DD, and seems within the realm of normal for that age.
I have heard great things about the Elizabeth Pantley No Cry Sleep Solution book, if you are not comfortable letting your DS cry, but really need things to change.
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