DH and I do pretty well now. When we had just settled into our relationship I was working a lot so never felt up for it very often. Now I only work 10 - 15 hours a week and even with DS we've hit a nice equilibrium. He'd like it a little bit more (like every day or more) but he's still satisfied with the amount of BD he gets. I don't mind how often we DTD as he gets me in the mood, but if he didn't make the effort I'd happily go a little less. We initiate fairly evenly these days too.
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23-01-2012 18:43 #24
I do the turning down. We used to be on par, but since I got pregnant I've been through severe morning sickness, severe constipation, depression, low BP and anemia. I don't think I'd have the strength to have sex. My DH respects that. We have spoken about it, and while he admits he wants it he also doesn't want me to just roll over and have his way (massive turn off for him)..and that's seriously about all I could manage at this stage.
There are peaks and troughs with all aspects of a relationship, sex is just one of those. A bit of understanding goes a long way.
23-01-2012 18:51 #25
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DH is the one with the higher libido here, but now that he is an old man (27) he would be happy with a few times a week instead of a few times a day like when we were teenagers!
My drive is VERY up and down over the years, due to the exhaustion both physically and mentally of having two babies and 20 foster kids in the last 3 years. I just felt like I wanted myself to myself and flop on the lounge for some TV at the end of the day, not giving myself to another person who needed me.
Not that DH ever gets pushy (sometimes just a bit flat if its been a while and I'm still uninterested - and I understand his feelings, but if I don't feel like making an effort then too bad for him, I'm not into compromising when it comes to sex.)
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23-01-2012 21:51 #30
To me and my DH, a relationship is about love, respect, commitment and family.
Everything else is meh. If it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't. S3x doesn't define our relationship.
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