Bought some nice wine, some cheese, crackers and anti pasto mix. She came, got the poops because my neighbours have long grass (how that affects her I will never know) then got the poops because dd had a friend over from next door and they turned the tv up. I told them to play on verandah and the tv went off. She was not happy with that, told the other kid to leave, then I told her to please not yell at people so she squealed for a long time, really loud. I apologised to my friend, then took dd to the airconditioning and took the dog in with her and shut the door to give her a chance to play with the dog and calm herself.
My friend said she will not put up with that behaviour and I told her that she really can't help it, her brain works in different ways but she said "whatever" then left. She was here all of 10 minutes! My dd came out fully calm and now we are eating the food and I am drinking wine, alone.
I know other people who have ASD kids feel this way, but the isolation is really hitting hard lately. How do you make friends? How do you build a support network? Or at least, how do you handle the isolation? My dd said "I bet I was the reason she left. No one ever wants to be near me"
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20-01-2012 19:41 #1
I had a friend lined up to visit
20-01-2012 19:44 #2
She's not a friend - seriously. Wow.
Enjoy the wine and cheese, not worth sharing it with her
20-01-2012 19:44 #3
That REALLY sux You dont need friends like that
Does she have kids????
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20-01-2012 19:46 #4Senior Member
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Oh hun. That's not a friend. It's really not. You deserve better.
Sorry I crashed where I wasn't meant to be. But honestly I don't think that is how a friend should react irrespective of ASD.
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20-01-2012 19:50 #5
I'm sorry you went to that effort for someone undeserving of your friendship
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20-01-2012 19:51 #6
So rude sounds like she has issues herself. I don't know you but I'd love to come share the wine with you and have a nice chat.
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20-01-2012 19:55 #7-
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This sounds more like a post for the fictitious but maybe necessary 'parents with friends with special needs' section
She's not a friend at all babe, so enjoy your dd and your yummy food and try to stop yourself from wishing your 'friend' a special needs child when her time comes.... I assume she has no children yet....
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20-01-2012 20:01 #8
She has kids, both older, one is out of home and the other is heading into his final year of school. Both easy going, average kids.
No, she is not really a friend, in fact I was anxious about the visit, but I have known her for nearly 20 years now. One part of me wants to let the friendship go, but another part realises that while she is sometimes not very nice, at least she visits. Others (school mums) avoid dd outside of school.
20-01-2012 20:02 #9Senior Member
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I wouldn't be inviting her back in a hurry...
20-01-2012 20:08 #10
That's just plain lousy. I'm so sorry.
You deserve so much better than that, and so does your daughter.
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