Completely hopeless at organising anything social for themselves?
DP is hopeless, in the nicest possible way. She NEVER organises anything with any of her friends even though she gets 4-5 days off in a row!
If we go out with friends, they're either my friends or our friends but I've organised it and usually she just wants to go off by ourselves fairly quickly into it.
She misses her friends, but is too lazy to arrange anything! I think it's lovely that she doesn't want to go out without me when I'm not working, but on her days off she can organise stuff!
I mean, I don't particularly care, except if she has a cry about how she never sees anyone.
I always do lunch/coffee/dinner with my friends when I'm working (I'm a nanny - I can take my baby with me) or on nights DP is working but maybe she just doesn't have the same need to be social as me?
She's such a muppet sometimes!
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20-01-2012 16:27 #1
Anyone else's partner...
20-01-2012 17:28 #2
My wife basically never socialises - she doesn't enjoy company very often, & is very selective about whose company she seeks. So I'm usually the one organising any socialising ... and I'm useless at it :-)
My suggestion: use Doodle ( http://doodle.com/ ). It's a free system where you create an event, specifying the location, and a range of dates and times.
Then, you email the link to your friends. They can quickly and easily indicate which dates and times they can make. Once everyone has responded, you pick the time & date with the greatest number of ticks.
Here's one I created for a get-together on Wednesday:
20-01-2012 17:38 #3
Maybe she wants her friends to organise things and invite her?
20-01-2012 17:53 #4
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20-01-2012 19:01 #5
I just prefer my own company and like to be a bit of a home body. I do have friends lol... I would just rather hang out here then spend an hour getting my stuff together to have a coffee....
But in saying that, yes... Sometimes I do complain to dp about it, and that's because sometimes I DO wish I had more friends that I could do stuff with, if I wanted to.
It's hard to explain. Lol but I know how your other half feels... It's hard to hold on to good friends when you prefer the company of yourself, because then on the rare occasion you want to actually do something, no one is there.
20-01-2012 19:27 #6
Yup, my DH is. We've moved interstate and he now doesn't really have any friends. He gets along with his work colleagues, but apart from one lady and her husband, he doesn't really hang out with any of them.
The only other social interaction he has is with my friends and their partners.
I don't think even if we were still up north he would organise things with his friends. It would be either me organising it for him, or
I once asked him why, and he said it's because he can't really be bothered. He's happy to stay at home with me (and now DD) and do his own thing.
It makes me sad though. I'm worried that if anything happened to me, he wouldn't have any friends. Now he has DD now, though.
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