I don't know where to post this but I would love some advice.
So, I tonight I saw this story (well the end of a story) on today tonight saying about some women have too much testosterone and it can make it almost impossible to fall pregnant but help can be provided by a naturopath or whatever to balance out the hormones to successfully ttc.
I know this girl, well not really know know but she is the daughter of DP's parents neighbour who DP grew up with since forever. she is now 32 and has been ttc for 10 year now from what her mum was telling me during xmas. she is on her 4th attempt of IVF and things still aren't looking very good, I feel really bad for her but after seeing this story it has got me thinking, she isn't a really girly girl, I double checked that with DP and she never has been. I've only ever met her once in person but DP talks to her a lot through facebook. I don't want to contact her through that but I'm thinking about telling DP's mum about this story to see if she may agree and to tell said girls mum (to whom I do talk to, but DP's mum of course has a closer relationship and knows as much if not more about the said girls attempt to ttc). I don't know much about what happens when seeing a doctor at first when you can't fall pregnant, so I have no idea if this is something that may have already been checked for, but I really think it is something worth checking.
Would this be overstepping my boundaries? I just feel so bad for her after trying for 10 years with no luck. something has to be possible.
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13-01-2012 22:27 #1
Will this be overstepping boundaries or not?
13-01-2012 22:31 #2
I would guess if she's on her 4th IVF attempt that her hormone levels etc have been thoroughly assessed.
It's lovely that you care - but I wouldn't say anything aside from wishing her the very best luck with everything. I cant imagine what she's going through
13-01-2012 22:39 #3
As said, i know nothing when it comes to IVF so just couldn't help but wonder if this could have played a part.
13-01-2012 22:39 #4
Agree with boobychino
My bloods were the first check when we had fertility issues and a high level of testosterone was note and led to a diagnoses of PCOS. It's lovely that you care. But she may feel your over stepping. The last thing you want to hear is well meaning advice (though it's from the best intentions and care) it's always feels insensitive
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13-01-2012 22:43 #5
I agree with boobycino. I know you are well meaning, but her hormone levels would have been checked and after 10 years of trying, she probably would have also researched and googled everything she can about trying to have a baby.
It was a nice thought though
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13-01-2012 23:22 #6
Thank you so much ladies. i won't say a word
I really do hope that IVF can help her as we were first told about this (but not a lot of detail at the time) when myself and said girls younger brother's wife were expecting at the same time, even born 5 days apart. I can't imagine what must have been going through her mind at the time. and now today her younger brother (same one) has just had his 2nd child today and we are ttc now too. I'm kind of hoping that she falls pregnant before me so she doesn't feel so left behind.
14-01-2012 02:52 #7
We hated ppl asking 'but have you tried this', or 'what about doing this'....although you know ppl's best intentions are usually at heart, you feel like yelling 'we wouldn't be going through the huge expense/physical & emotional pain of IVF if we didn't have to'!!
It's lovely of you to care about someone yoh aren't even close to you though
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14-01-2012 06:34 #8
I agree with everyone else. After 10 years and 4 ivf attempts she's have been tested and no doubt an self researched expert.
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