Mil has never liked me cos DF is an only child and she feels like I stole him away. I've always had to put up with snide remarks and interfering which I mostly tried to turn a blind eye to so as not to cause probs with DF.
It all came to a head at the beginning of last year tho when she came to pick DS up as she was looking after him while I went to work. It was like she came looking for a fight and kept going on about our finances and how much money DF owes her (it's always about money with her) and I just said to her I really don't want to hear it. She wouldn't stop, and this was all in front of DS (who was about 18 months at the time) so I told her that if she didn't calm down she wouldn't be taking DS anywhere. Well, then she lost it, lunged at me smacked me in the head, scratched the side of my face and had her hands around my throat, again all in front of DS. I shoved her off me but never lay a hand on her back. Although I felt like it, I would never do that in front of my son. By this stage, DS was screaming and crying and I yelled at her to get the f... out of my house and that she would never see any of us again!!!
She was screaming, calling me every name under the sun, telling me that she was gonna make DF leave me, that she'd take DS and I'd never see him again!! I was a mess, called DF at work and made him come home.
Of course, she lied when confronted and said that I'd said awful things to her to 'make' her attack me. We didn't see them for about 2 months but during that time DF was miserable and we fought constantly and came very close to breaking up. He just couldn't fathom cutting ties with his patents.
To cut an even longer story short, after lots of thinking and soul searching on my own, I decided that in order to save my relationship, I had to be the bigger person. So I emailed DF's dad, telling him that I didn't wanna argue or bring up the past or anything, that we all just needed to move on. It killed me in some ways as I still can't believe she did it, but I knew deep down I would have lost DF otherwise.
Since then, things with DF have been great as he respects and loves me so much for being the bigger person and putting an end to it all. And he no longer turns a blind eye to mil's snide remarks and antics and defends me and our family. She has been a lot better too. Some things she says and does still annoy me but I have learnt to choose my battles. I just wish she wouldn't see me as competition, and rather that we both love DF.
Sorry for the long post guys :-)
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07-01-2012 15:50 #11Senior Member
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07-01-2012 17:31 #14
Mine told everyone she hates me in her wedding speech. She was joking, but many people didn't realise.
We get along great. I used to be her boss, so we built our own relationship away from DH.
07-01-2012 18:05 #15Member
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Nothing nearly as bad as some stories here.
MIL came for a visit and handed me 3 papaya's and said "I heard they were good for cellulite and I immediately thought of you"
07-01-2012 18:22 #16
Nothing as bad as any of these and we do get along well. But when we were house hunting my in laws met me when I got home from work one night and dp was working late with a camera and info from real estate agents and basically told me which houses we should buy.(and of course not in the area we wanted, higher than wanting to pay and needing work when dp has no ability to do DIY). In hindsight they thought they were being helpful, but as soon as they left I burst into tears.
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Mine kicked us out (we lived with her) on the street when we were 17 and 18 because we refused to each pay her $200 a week rent when her homeswest house cost her $80 a week. She also wanted us to halve all the bills with her.
She lied to us and took our DS in the car with BIL to his house when we specifically asked her not to. DS told us he went in the car with his godfather (BIL) which is fine, but because she went behind our backs it really hurt.
She offered to look after DS1 for me for a total of 6hrs a week while I went to uni. Five weeks into it she threw a tantrum and said she didn't want to do it anymore so I had to quit uni.
07-01-2012 18:29 #18
Mine just always makes sure she mentions how fat I am, or how ruined my body is or how bad my stetchmarks are... and not just to me,... to anyone she meets! as in "Oh yeah, Gret and Carlo are good, they have five kids. Oh Gret's SO BIG, and she has so many stretchmarks, yeah the kids have just RUINED her body"
AND then.... she makes sure she mentions all the gorgeous women she see's all the time.. for example, after DH had just come back from 4 days at Byron Bay by himself, she says over coffee to DH and I... (she lives at Byron, she stayed with me a week and he went down there by himself) "Oh there are so many gorgeous women in Byron. Carlo would have seen them, there are some gorgeous European backpackers. Just beautiful. Aren't there Carlo?" With me there! f**ck you woman.
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07-01-2012 18:58 #19
I get along great with MIL, so no horror stories from me.
My nanna, though - My Mum's MIL - sent my Mum a letter after my Dad proposed to her telling her to forget about marrying him, that he was making a huge mistake and that they would never last.
They did eventually divorce, but they were married for 27 years.
07-01-2012 21:42 #20
My sister's MIL cleaned the bathroom with her toothbrush while they were staying... she picked it up to use it and it still had hair and creme cleanser on it... when she asked her MIL said she thought it was the one she cleans the bathroom with... because yes, you would keep it in a visitors bathroom bag!
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