Honestly? I don't judge at all - I used to be the same. I have discovered that keeping an organised, tidy house keeps me calm and focused. I become anxious and stressed if my house is a shambles. It reflects upon my kids, my mind, my whole life.
I really dislike the statement that people who are organised and 'clean' don't spend quality time with their children. In fact, it really irritates me.
Speaking from my personal experience, I spend *more* quality time with my children when I keep an organised house - because my head is in the right place, I have more time (yes, once you get into the habit of it all you save time due to efficiency, even if it seems like it takes a lot of time) and I'm happier all around.
Some times my house is crazy - there are days when I cbf doing anything - I might get caught up painting with DS, or I might decide to go shopping instead of cleaning. Or just lay on the couch all day. I don't let it bother me. I try not to sweat the small stuff, and just do what works for me, as everyone should
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02-01-2012 19:47 #11
02-01-2012 19:50 #12
I should add, this doesn't mean I don't go into places and mentally organise things...because I do It's a guilty pleasure (lame person over here!!!). BUT if it's untidy/messy, I don't walk in think "Farrk, what a pig"!
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02-01-2012 19:52 #13
Ahh yes and I second (or third?) the filthy comment. It's not ok to live unhygienically, where health can be affected. I would definitely refuse a cup of tea at houses like that
02-01-2012 19:57 #14-
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I don't judge messy houses but if someone I knew had a dirty and unhygienic home then I'd not visit often and definitely not with my kids.
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02-01-2012 20:03 #15
All I was saying is that I sometimes wish that I, personally, could just let some stuff go around the house, because some of the time I spend cleaning I could be spending with dd instead.
I am also in a much better head space to enjoy time with dd if I don't have certain chores hanging over my head.
02-01-2012 20:03 #16
I'm a complete neat freak. I've been described as a bit OCD before but it's only in my own environment. I would panic if anyone came over & saw dishes drying in the dish rack. Clean, just not put away yet. I do realise this is a bit ridiculous but I can't help it. However if I visit someone else I wouldn't even notice if the dishes were washed or not or clothes put away or toys out. If I do notice it actually relaxes me, makes me feel like it's ok to not have the house perfect. All. The. Time!
Obviously filth (waste, serious mould, unhygienic living) is a bit beyond me but I would try not to judge & see if I could find out why they live like that (maybe depressed etc) & try to help them if I can.
I hope when I have children I will be able to say it doesn't matter if the floors aren't mopped they are having fun playing & I am going to join them!
I need my house to be clean but I know family time is more important.
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02-01-2012 20:21 #20
I get light hearted jokes thrown at me about having 'OCD' and being too clean. But I'm not. I just cannot handle the stress is causes me otherwise. I do a bit here and there each day. So I'm never cleaning all day, everyday. Minus the washing, washing up etc that I do do every day :P I feel in control when things are done, and sorted. I enjoy my time with my family so much more, especially any free time I get after the kids are in bed. My children have my undivided attention when I spend time with them, (most of the time) as I'm not worrying about what else I should/could be doing. Or need to do later etc, etc.
I don't judge others. Unless their house is quite unhygienic to be honest.
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