So here it is. I found out this afternoon my dh has been having an affair on and off for the past 2 years. I found a phone in his car today and whilst I didn't manage to unlock the phone he thinks I did and told me some of whats been going on. He says she is woman I don't know, she's married, has 5 kids and while he doesn't see it going anywhere long term he has decided we can't continue. I am 6 months pregnant and we have a 4 yo son. He wanted this new baby and said he 'wasn't man enough' to break up 2 years ago. He is a great dad but says he's a lousy husband- I tend to agree! I think i'm in shock- haven't cried and I'm not angry just disappointed. He packed a bag, apologised, hugged our son and drove off. I have been cramping slightly since 6pm so am having half a glass of wine to calm myself.
I have been talking to myself as I would a client which is helping but geez I am worried about being able to continue this pregnancy, birthing without him (no way I can do it with him) and I feel so sad for my kids. I can do this: one step at a time. I know plenty of you have been in this situation. Any advice?
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31-12-2011 22:40 #1Senior Member
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Wish this wasn't happening
31-12-2011 22:43 #2
Oh my gosh! You poor thing. I'm so very sorry, I don't know what to say.
Massive massive hugs hun!
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31-12-2011 22:44 #3
Oh Jesus what a horrible situation.
I have no advice but couldn't read and not offer massive hugs
Im so sorry this has happened to you
*Dear iPhone, stop autocorrecting all my swear words you piece of shut.
DYAC...go to he'll*
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31-12-2011 22:45 #4
I don't have any kids, so I guess I don't really know how you are feeling, but I have had a DP cheat on me so I know the crushing feeling when you find out, being unable to cry cause you are so angry and confused. Sorry that you are going through this...especially being pregnant - that's tough! You will be able to get through it though. Do you have friends or family around that can help support you?
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31-12-2011 22:46 #5
I cannot imagine the shock and grief you would be experiencing, I am so sorry
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31-12-2011 22:46 #6Senior Member
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You are really brave. There are going to be heaps of times when you wonder if you can do this, but one day, in a few years, you'll look back and wonder why you ever doubted yourself. Be easy on yourself, let yourself fall apart just the right amount - enough to process & heal, but not so far that you can't function.
You rock. So, so, sorry that this has happened. It's a new year and a fresh start. You and your babies will find happy life on your own terms.
31-12-2011 22:47 #7
No advice here either but plenty of love, hugs and prayers coming your way.
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31-12-2011 22:47 #8
first of all big hugs. what a crappy lot of news to find out.
my advice is call a trusted family member or friend to come over or even better 2 people. one to watch your son and the other to hear you out and let you have a cry, yell,rant, rave whatever you need to get out.
then slowly slowly work out what you want.
its a long hard road but you can do it. please remember to make use of all the help offered/available.
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31-12-2011 22:50 #10
Do you have friends or family you can call on for support?
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