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    Default Still hurting

    This is my first time posting on the bubhub forum.
    I lost our first baby back in July, i was meant to be 9w1d and measured at 7w6d (a missed miscarriage). i never understood heartbreak until that day and the days since.
    I decided against the D&C and gave the tablets a go, well that failed, i got told at my second consult that due to me not bleeding or cramping the tablets would not have worked.... why not tell me that before i went through it?
    During the second consult while doing the U/S the doctor pointed at the screen and said "Theres your uterus and theres your dead baby.....WTF!!!!!!!! who does that?????
    We have been trying to conceive for 3mths now, i am getting cramping and some bleeding 4-5 days after our conception dates, also had some tissue discharge back in october. Off to the doctors today, hoping they can figure something out.

    The pain will never go away, i'm hoping it just gets lets obvious. On the 10th feb 2012 i should have beenmy due date instead we will be morning the loss of our first child.

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    Hi Jat. Your post bought tears to my eyes. I had a missed miscarriage with similar dates to yours in November. Like you, I don't think the pain will ever go away. We just have to learn how to live with it.

    I can't believe the doctor said that to you, how insensitive.

    I hope you get some answers soon.

    Take care of yourself xx

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    Big hugs to you it is a very hard thing to go through. I can't believe that doctor was so insensitive.

    I went through a similar thing in 2009. I opted for a d&c straight up. A couple of months later I had some very bad cramping and it turned out there was some 'retained products' they had missed during the first d&c and I had to have a second one. I conceived not long after that and have my ds.

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    After going to the doctors had to have another U/S results all clear, bloods all normal. After a lengthy discussion with my doctor she is convinced i'm m/c every month as my cycle is all over the shop so we are not allowed to try til after my cycle in march. hopefully this is the break my body needs.

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    Our first son or daughter would have been 3 in a week. The EDD is still a sad day for me even after so long. The pain does get less, but the sadness still lingers.

    I can't imagine life without our DS who was conceived a few months later, but I still wonder what that first baby would have been like.

    It does get better, but I don't think it ever really goes away.

    And as for the Dr, you should complain about that. How insensitive. That is just not appropriate at all.

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