TBH I think you will look spiteful if you go saying 'me and exDH slept together' she will prob take it as 'your fault' meaning you slept with him simply because he cheated on you and is now with her so your jealous and want her to be cheated on too!
Honestly he sounds like a dog who will eventually get found out!!
If you have to tell her somehow annonymously get the dating site info to her, otherwise it just looks like the spiteful exDW causing trouble!!!
ps Id also be getting a full STD check, who knows who else he has been with?!
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29-12-2011 08:36 #11
29-12-2011 08:45 #12
Lol I love that she gets told to be annonymous to avoid looking like the jealous ex, yet regardless of her connection with the guy, she still slept with a taken man...knowing he was taken....
I think either tell her and do it openly and honestly "yep he slept with me and joined a dating site cause he wants to cheat again"
Or stay out of it, dont tell her and stop having s3x with someone elses boyfriend.
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29-12-2011 09:07 #13
remove yourself from the situation and keep it that way
29-12-2011 09:44 #14
Don't play silly games by being anonymous or "accidentally" calling her while you're DTD with her boyfriend. For crying out loud, this is real life - not Home & Away. Seriously, this whole situation sounds so childish and I really think the answer is pretty damn simple.
Tell her what happened, tell her what he's doing and then cut all ties with them both. Be the grown up here while you still have the opportunity to do so .
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29-12-2011 09:57 #15
What pinkzy said.
Or I'd just walk away, say nothing and avoid exDH like the plague if those 'feelings' are still there.
But yeah, I wouldn't play games or be indirect. Either fess up head on, or walk away.
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29-12-2011 10:12 #16Member
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Your "feelings" for you exH shouldn't come into this. Sure, he cheated on his GF, but you were a party that was involved in it! Honestly, how can you believe a word he says about his feelings for you when a) he cheated on you while you were married, b) he's now making you the "other woman" in his relationship with his GF, and c) he's proven he will keep cheating on his GF by joining a dating website?
He's scum, pure and simple.
Stay out of the situation and stay away from him.
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29-12-2011 10:30 #17
He sure sounds like a catch
You say it was a mistake, so leave it at that. I wouldn't tell the GF. Like PP's said, she would probably think you were trying to cause trouble and won't believe you.
I would stay away from him. I can't see if you have kids together, but if you don't, then stop seeing him. If you do, keep it "professional".
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29-12-2011 10:38 #18
If i was cheated on i would want to know so i would definitely let the gf know somehow.
I think once thats done, wiping your hands clean of him sounds like a good idea.
29-12-2011 10:41 #19
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29-12-2011 10:57 #20
Um, you don't want to stick your nose in their business? Too late, you did that when you slept with him while he was with her. So be upfront. Say, this happened, I'm sorry, it won't happen again with me but you should know he's on a dating site so its likely to happen again with someone else. How she takes it and what she does next is up to her.
But if my partner was such an unfaithful jerk I'd want to know.
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