Your BEST advice?

[SugarSkull]

If you simply cannot breastfeed, do not force yourself, and do not listen to anyone who tries to force you. Try, by all means, but if it's too painful, or you get too distressed or anxious, stop.
There's no shame in stopping, and you're not a failure.

I tried very hard and produced only blood. I kept trying because the lac' consultant kept encouraging me. Nipples got infected and put an end to all of that.
If I had stopped when I wanted to stop, I would have been far less stressed, angry at myself, resentful at her refusal to latch {I would have too, all she was suckling was blood}, anxious and fearful at being "one of those mothers"

That's the best advice you can ever give someone. Thank you for that xx

[SugarSkull]

*YOU* know your baby best. Don't let anybody tell you that you're doing something wrong if it works for you, your baby and your family. There's controlled crying, natural parenting, formula feeding, breastfeeding, reading books, throwing the books out the window, and everything in between. Don't let anybody make you feel guilty for the choices *you* make for you and your baby. If we were all the same parents and did the same thing, we wouldn't learn anything from one another.

[growingbelly]

no matter what you do someone will tell you your wrong, get used to it andlearn not to take it to heart. Life gets easier when you accept that in other peoples eyes you are always WRONG!

[sjay]

Thank you ladies! Some really amazing advice! I'm going to save all of this and make sure I look back over it all - especially the bf!! xxx