View Poll Results: Do you spend equally on others?

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    Default Do you try to spend equally on others as they spend on DS/DD?

    Do you always try to buy others/other children a present to the same value as what you receive/your children receive if you can afford it?

    If I can afford it I always try to make sure I buy something around the same value and I feel bad if I know I have spent significantly less.

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    We have family limits for buying for others, $30 per adult or child, that way we don't have that awkward moment where A gets a $70 present and C gets a $25 present.

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    That's a good way of doing it

    I buy what I think will suit the child and try to spend the same across the board on each child (my children get a gift at home and a gift with the family) we all have different limits and as a family we understand this so far not had any issues we aren't very material

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    I only buy for 3 children at the moment, and they are the kids of two of my best friends.

    One of them I will spend a lot more on than the other two, because the mother of the first child I know will spend a fair bit on DS.

    Don't get me wrong, I am more than happy to spend the same amount on the other two, however their mother isn't as well off and last year she was a bit embarrassed that I had spent so much on her kids, and she hadn't spent much on DS at all so it is out of consideration for her than me making sure I get bang for my buck!

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    I used to - but my SIL just kept upping the ante and the rest of us couldn't or didn't want to spend that much a head. I think now I spend between $30-$50 a child

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    We normally spend around 50 per person adult or child, it's a sorta unwritten thing we all just know that's the amount.

    For significant bdays we might spend more or all chip in and get something bigger.

    I would feel awkward if I only spent say 20-30 and other person spent 70-80!

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    I think setting a limit before is a great idea! I must remember that one for next year.

    DS's father brought spent $100 each on his niece and nephew, I also brought them a present each however DS's aunty has only spent about a quarter of what was spent on her children. It irks me not so much the money aspect but she didn't even try to buy him something he would really like .

    ETA: She only has one nephew!!!

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    No we're just happy to buy what's within our budgets, I have 2 nephews and 5 nieces add in my 3 and that's 9 other children for 2 of my brothers to buy for or 10 for 1 to buy for and we all have different incomes so it doesn't seem fair. We do only buy for children though.


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    No I spend to my budget not anyone else's.

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    my SIL and i have discussed once we both had children (we both have 2) that xmas & birthday present limit is $30 for the kids and $50 a couple for adults.


 

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