My Lo is 7 weeks old now, he normally slept in my mum s arm when she was here with me. U know how the grandparents are! My mum cant hear even 1 minute his cry!
When I m alone with him, I try to train him go to sleep by himself. ECHC ppl told me I can leave him in the bassinet by himself n rock it gently to help him sleep. I did that, but he cries nonstop for at least 10 or 15 mins. My hearts broken. My hubby told me to go next door so he can't see me that might be better. Is it true? Will the loud nonstop crying harm bb any how?
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19-12-2011 11:09 #1Member
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Is there any harm if I leave my baby crying for 15 minutes?
19-12-2011 11:20 #2
Your little one is only 7 weeks old. That is so young, that the majority of pro-controlled crying supporters would never leave a baby that young to cry it out alone. At 7 weeks old, there is no harm in rocking him and comforting him till he goes to sleep.
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19-12-2011 11:22 #3
hi, I think bub is too young to be crying for that time. Try some different sleeping positions, or try to wear bub in a carrier, so you have your hands free to do stuff. Or even a dummy if you are happy to do that. I would not have such a long crying time, if bub was just a little unsettled for 15 minutes before going to sleep that wouldnt worry me, but loud crying is too stressfull for bub and for you. Also 7 wks is too young for any sort of routine so dont worry about regular patterns yet. Marie.
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19-12-2011 11:24 #4
Can he not fall asleep in your arms now that your mums no longer there?
19-12-2011 11:33 #5
Bub is very young. He really needs the reassurance of you close, try a sling or something similar perhaps?
All the best.
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19-12-2011 11:33 #6
Your baby is used to being with you 24/7 - in the womb - and all he wants is some reassuring comfort in this big scary world. It would likely soothe him and bring him great comfort if you held him to sleep, whether in your arms or in a carrier. I think it would be very detrimental to leave him to cry.
19-12-2011 11:39 #7
Yes, leaving him to cry himself to sleep at 7 weeks could be harmful, emotionally. He wants reassurance and feels safe with you. Don't let anyone (DH etc) tell you its wrong to cuddle you crying baby. if you can't stand listening to him cry loudly its for a reason - your instincts are telling you to go to him and comfort him. Trust your instincts.
On the dangers of crying it out -
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19-12-2011 11:39 #8
It breaks my heart when I hear young babies being left to cry, too. They need their mum's. It is breaking your heart because you know your LO needs you!
Just remember you can never spoil a baby, don't listen to anyone who tells you otherwise!
19-12-2011 11:41 #9
I second the sling. A peanut shell could good as it has them in that lay down position horizontally across your chest. You could pop your baby in there while you do housework, read a book, have a cuppa with a friend.
At 7 weeks they are tiny little things that need their mums. Trust me, it's fleeting. Then they grow up and want to do things without you and you wonder where your little baby has gone Listen to your instincts they are trying to tell you
19-12-2011 11:44 #10
A sling was a lifesaver for me. It can take a little while to get the hang of it, but then its wonderful. I'd pop mine in and then do housework. The vacuuming would send them to sleep.
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