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18-12-2011 20:33 #1
18-12-2011 20:38 #2
I don't think you can stop her dating TBH. She probably just has a much more sociable personality than her older brothers. If she's a bit boy crazy, she's a bit boy crazy and there's not much you can do to prevent her from talking to and about boys alllll the time if that's just how she is right now. If you really want her to concentrate on school, i guess you could limit all of her socialising a bit more, eg, no internet/mobile/whatever until she has done x hours of homework or whatever. But i think if you say "no dating" she will just ignore you. You can't control what she does at school at lunch time for example.
18-12-2011 20:47 #3
My daughter is the same. They are mostly all the same at this age it seems. I keep an eye on it (I check her Facebook etc regularly) and we talk about all sorts of things to do with boys and relationships. It is really quite innocent at the moment, so as much as I don't like it, I'm okay with it.
I think as long as we are fairly open with each other, at least she is not going behind my back. Banning her doesn't help, so I just make sure I know where she is and monitor the situation, I can try and prevent things going too far. It's really hard when they start growing up and one starts growing up more quickly (my 15 year old son hasn't bothered with girls in that way either, so he's not a worry in that way).
18-12-2011 20:49 #4
Okay, just read your other posts! That is a worry and I would be talking to his parents and possibly the school counsellor.
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18-12-2011 21:01 #6
18-12-2011 21:03 #7
Yeah, that is a worry. I don't know what I'd do. Aside from limiting/monitoring communication etc so they can hang out at school, but not be able to plan late night rendezvous.
Also - just myself - I'd be giving her condoms & explain how to use them. Remind her that they aren't 100% and that there's still a handful of STIs that they don't protect against, but IF she is becoming sexually active she needs to be responsible for her body.
BUT then I'd do ANYTHING in my power to prevent her having any opportunity to actually be sexually active.
Could you encourage her to have girlfriends over? Try to get her socializing more with girls & less with boys?
I remember being boy crazy at 13 too though. It's a pretty strong impulse to want to be with boys.
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18-12-2011 21:41 #10
That's a good idea regarding handing in the technology. I also agree with encouraging her female friends. Have them come over and hang out. But see if you can see if you can talk to some kind of counsellor in case the defiant behavior escalates. The boys parents (if they are approachable) should be notified to, so they can deal with his behavior. *hugs* teenagers are hard!!
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