Sounds like there are a lot of us with MIL issues!!
My MIL lives around 2 hours away from us, and it took her a year until she met our daughter. We were down in her town about 5 times in that year and she was always too busy to see us.
Meanwhile on FB she is always commenting on how "her" granddaughter is so beautiful and how she takes after her side of the family. She is also quick to save/steal photos from our FBs and post them on her own and say how gorgeous our DD is... and loves all the comments she gets from her friends about her.
I just don't understand how someone can want so little to do with our DD yet love the attention she gets from being her grandmother? So annoying!
I don't even refer to her as my DDs grandmother in front of her..... as far as I'm concerned she has one grandmother and that's my mum. My husband is fine with this as it upsets him too with how little effort his mum puts in. We haven't even told her we're pregnant this time.
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12-12-2011 15:37 #11Senior Member
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12-12-2011 15:38 #12
she sounds awful DreadlockFairy!!
I am extremely lucky to have a great MIL, but there have been times where she has said and done things that hurt. For instance, after DD1 was born every attribute (her cowlick, her smile, everything!) was from my husband and his siblings!!! And I don't mean 'her hair is just like my daughters' no no, it was said like 'well, she Definately got that smile from my daughter'. Ummm, no!! It's identical to mine! I think she got it from me!
It only stopped when I quipped one day, 'oh your're right. All I was was the incubator and the mother! She hasn't got anything of mine at all!' Lol, it stopped after that
Surely your friends and family will cotton on to her fakeness
12-12-2011 15:41 #13
Yup, sounds like mine.
She has seen DD twice in 7 months.
She is not invited to family events on the basis that she's a total disrespectful mole.
12-12-2011 15:50 #14Senior Member
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My MIL lives 5 mins max away. But she completely favours my niece (her daughters only child), more than my DD. My niece is only 6 mths older, so not much of an age difference, but she sees her alot more than my DD (probably because she has a closer relationship with her daughter than my DH/her son, a mother-daughter thing I guess). But when I take DD over there, she gushes on about niece all the time. And whenever I ask her to baby sit, she has niece already or niece is coming etc etc.
Plus she didnt come to DDs 1st birthday.
12-12-2011 15:53 #15
12-12-2011 15:57 #16
Ditto ditto ditto
My mil is all of the above!!!!!
12-12-2011 16:03 #17
SMIL isn't like that, but my Mum is. She puts on this show of having this close family when the reality is we are not close at all! She didn't even come to DS's 2nd birthday. Dad had a reason he couldn't be there, she didn't. She obviously just didn't want to.
She's not at all interested in our lives, so I am no longer interested in hers. Haven't seen her since Feb and haven't spoken to her since I rang her to tell her I was 6 weeks pregnant. She's made her choice to be un-involved so stuff her I say!
12-12-2011 16:06 #18
12-12-2011 17:10 #19
Omg THANK YOU for all the replies because I was seriously thinking I was the only one who had lucked out with such a dud MIL. I don't care about *our* relationship but I think it's really sh!tty she can ignore her own grandchild. She doesn't have one photo of my child (in the entirety of her whole life), has never asked or shown interest in getting one and didn't care to take any on the weekend either. Loser.
12-12-2011 17:15 #20
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