No, I went back to my maiden name - it just didn't feel right being Mrs M when I was no longer married. We did not have any children together though.
MIL has just re-married but has kept her ex husbands name, as it's her sons (my DP) & grandsons (my DS) name. So I think it depends on the circumstance.
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11-12-2011 15:04 #33Senior Member
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I didn't have children in my first marriage, but I kept the name for professional reasons. Our divorce was amicable, and my (ex) husband had no issue with it.
My current (and final!) DH met me with that name, and had no issue with it being my ex husband's surname. When I married DH I was delighted to change to his name.
The only negative (of keeping my ex's name) was that it was a foreign name, and people would ask if I had family from that area. I didn't usually want to launch into the whole saga of it being my married name, so I tended to just say yes and leave it there. Luckily I do have (distant) family from that country, so it wasn't totally a lie!
11-12-2011 15:11 #34
I would keep my name (aka my ex's) because It's my name, it's been my name for all but 20 years. It belongs to me, and no new wife would have the right to tell me to change it.
11-12-2011 15:31 #35
Depends on the situation. If it was a mutual and amicable split, then yeah I probably would, at least until the time when/if one of us decided we want to re-marry. Otherwise, if it was a nasty split then I probably wouldn't. But in saying that I wouldn't really know until I was in that position, which hopefully we will never be in.
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11-12-2011 16:08 #36
Depends on the situation.
11-12-2011 16:17 #37
I have been divorced and decided to change back to my maiden name. No way i'd want to continue to share anything with him, especially not his last name.
11-12-2011 16:24 #38
Honestly, I'm not sure. I think it would greatly depend on the circumstances of the break up. If it was a divorce from mutually growing apart and mutually separating, I would probably say yes. If he cheated on me, I would change it back.I would consider him unworthy of me keeping his name.
But then if I create the scenario that DH was married and divorced before me, and his ex kept his name, I'd be p*ssed.
So after all that, I don't know
11-12-2011 16:25 #39
11-12-2011 16:55 #40
I kept my ex H's surname until I was just about to have a baby with my current husband. We weren't married at that point so I changed my name to his by deed poll. I'd not had children with my ex but our split and divorce had been very amicable plus I preferred my married name to my maiden name <shallow icon> !
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