Our child has both of our surnames.
View Poll Results: Should children have their father's surname?
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Yes, he is the father regardless and deserves that respect.
No, they should almost always have their mother's surname.
It depends on what BOTH parents prefer.
Only if the man is a regular in the child's life.
Not if the mother doesn't want it to be.
Not if they're not a couple when the mother has the baby.
Other (please tell!)
WTF? This poll has stupid options! (Shut up - I couldn't think of any better ones! lol)
09-12-2011 19:25 #31
09-12-2011 19:31 #32
I'll PM you a number that I used for the mediation service, they could probably help with advice on him being uncontactable.
09-12-2011 19:55 #33Guest Guest
Good question. I like tradition when it comes to this sort of thing and it was the main reason I got married and changed my name to dh's, so when I have kids we'd all have the same surname (plus I hated my maiden name).
If we weren't together they'd have kept my name.
09-12-2011 20:04 #34
DD and I have DH's surname. It was just a given. It's actually so much easier to pronounce our surname then it was my maiden name. People always said it how it was spelt!
09-12-2011 20:41 #35
I have asked and even agreed to hyphen... But have had no luck as he is the only one to carry on that family name, I think that is utter cr@p! All because of his grandfather!
How are the grandfathers wishes more important to my sons?
I think his name sounds better with DH name too as FOB surname is rather sh!t and embarrassing.
09-12-2011 20:44 #36Senior Member
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Although I'm in a committed relationship with her father, DD has my surname. When we get married I'll keep it too. We're not particularly traditional and to me it makes a lot more sense for children to have their mother's name. Having said that, if we'd had a boy he would have had DP's name as mine is quite feminine. We were in complete agreement about the name
09-12-2011 21:06 #37
When and if i ever get married, i will keep my surname and any future children i have will also have my last name.
There isnt any particular reason for it but its how i want it to be.
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09-12-2011 21:16 #38
1. DD1 had her dad XH's surname
2. when separated i reverted to maiden name and hyphoned maiden name with X surname for DD1.
3. when i married DH i took his surname so DD1 then becomes XH surname-DH surname.
poor DD1 hope she doesnt have an identity crisis one day. the changes i made were all done in good will and with her being my top priority.
09-12-2011 21:20 #39
I also id not attempt to put her father on her birth certificate.
09-12-2011 21:32 #40
In a relationship couple decides.
If not. The primary carer should decide.
A mothers surname is no less valid just because she carried and birthed the child!
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