bebehvala I'm due on the 1st of September and I have my 13 week scan with OB on Friday 24 Feb
Salgan I'm hanging out to stop feeling so blah every day! I'm glad to hear there is some relief!
AFM My DSD's are both worried about me having a baby and even though we prepared them and ensured they were comfortable with me having a baby before we tried, it is a different scenario now that it's a reality. They are worried I won't love them as much once I have my own baby and they are worried about the impact a new baby will have on the household and family life. They live with us 100% of the time. I have been reassuring them how much I love them and what a bond I have created with them over the past seven years, but I would love any words of advice from anyone else who might know a good way to handle this delicate matter. I really want them to feel safe about the situation. I think it's the unknown that is bothering them as well, the reality might be a lot better for them. They are both very maternal young girls.
Have a great weekend everyone
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10-02-2012 17:35 #481
10-02-2012 21:02 #482Due in July
11 - Jools
13 - Claire
18 - Salgan
19 or 23 - Belinda
25 - Mum2Angus
31 - Gemini85
Due in August
4 - DJSHEARS
5 - chicparis
6 - Gracefilled - TWINS!
14 - Klong
15 - HamptonK
16 - BecKaLee
18 - 41 Hope
18 - qotfu
21 - Misscarlya
22 - Littleve
22 - Bebehvala
29 - Angenrod
29 - Kseds
29 - holdingmybreath
Due in September
3 - Angelanathan
18 - babystepswa
? - Grace2012 - TWINS
Scans and Appointments
Hamptonk - OB Appt. - 13 Feb
Kseds - NT Scan - 16 Feb
qotfu - CVS - 16 Feb
Geminii - Amnio Test - 19 Feb
bebehvala - NT results - 19 Feb
qotfu - CVS results - 19 Feb
Salgan - Morph Scan - 20 Feb
babystepswa - Scan - 23 Feb
goaskclaire - NT Scan - 24 Feb
Geminii - Amnio Results - ? Feb
Geminii - Morph Scan - 15 Mar
Hamptonk - Morph scan - 21 Mar
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10-02-2012 21:14 #483
goaskclaire - Sorry I can't help with the DSD's sitch - hopefully one of the other mummies to be can help. That's such a difficult position to be in
qotfu - I have not got my NT Scan results yet, but I am so worried. I can't imagine how you feel. you won't have to worry about what to do pending results and that they're ate A-okay.
Gem - Not long until Thursday.... yeah right! Hopefully you have great plans to keep you busy this weekend.
AFM - Totally freaking about the results gosh why are we always waiting?
11-02-2012 01:33 #484
Hi everyone! I had my 8 week scan today and everything was perfect. The ultrasound guy is lovely, but I was so nervous going into the scan as it was at this point last cycle that I found out that I was going to miscarry. Fortunately it was a totally different experience, and the ultrasound guy was so happy for us he gave us both hugs. I'm finally letting myself feel pregnant, which is making dealing with the nausea and bloating a little easier.
I also had a good appt with my FS, he is also an obstetrician and is willing to be my "backup" ob and book me in at a Private Hospital "just in case", even though I'm booking in for my local midwife run birth clinic. This gives me some peace of mind, because if anything happens that makes me high risk before I go into labour I can easily change plans to a private hospital which will be much more comfortable if I end up there on bedrest for a few weeks.
Sorry for no personals, it's late and I just got home after a very long day.
11-02-2012 01:56 #485
Goaskclaire - I have an 8 yr old DSS and 10 yr old DSD. They have been aware of the whole process and been informed of everything along the way. We have them 50% of the time. They both initially were really excited (and still are most of the time) but also expressed concern to me that I maybe won't love them as much. Like you I have of course told them that nothing will change. I have noticed though in the past few weeks that they have distanced themselves from me a little. I think they are really unsure. I have promised them that we will still have our fun girly shopping time and go to the pool etc which makes them happy. I find it helps when I let them make choices ie we are letting them decide if we find out the sex (I read that it's best for step kids to bond with bub if we find out the sex), they pick outfits and we bought them cool new beds each. My DSD spends ages online looking at prams and I have promised her that just her and I will go buy the pram. This is all new to me so I have no idea what I am doing! I would definitely welcome any suggestions!!
On phone so going to keep it short. Hope you all have a great weekend :-)
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11-02-2012 09:16 #486Senior Member
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- Jul 2010
Just a quick one from me as I am on my phone.
Claire & missbloggsy - re. The DSD's. All my stepchildren asked DH if we were going to have kids as soon as we got engaged with was about 3 years before we got pregnant. The DSD's were aged 14 & 16, and were more worried about their father having other children that he would see every day. We only saw them for half of school holidays, so I guess it's a bit different.
I guess like with any older children, just include them lots and perhaps but them a present from the baby once it's born. I think my DSD's in particular really stressed about it, got really angry with DH etc, it was probably them grieving that were going to have to share their father & dealing with the whole family breakdown again. The girls were much more emotional about it than the boys. When DS came along they were really excited and they do really love him. Good luck with it and I think it will make it easier if you have a good relationship now. We didn't in the beginning and especially not with their mother - but that's a different story. Because you have 50-100% care, they will really get a chance to bond with their little brother/sister too, which will be really nice.
11-02-2012 10:06 #487Member
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- Nov 2011
Hi agree bebehvala, why are we always waiting?? it makes me crazy! Looks like we get our results on the same day, lets hope its good news for both of us and we can relax.
Gemini, what date is your amnio???
I'm quite surprised my results are quick, I'm going public the whole way this time so everythings been free...and in my experience public hospitals usually arent the quickest option. I'm going to RPA in Sydney, its also where I did IVF (though their RPA program is run by Genea/Sydney IVF - who I went to for my first bub). I guess no matter how quick they are I will stress and make it feel like weeks....
for all of us
ps I am due Aug 18
11-02-2012 20:22 #488
12-02-2012 16:36 #489
Thanks so much everyone for your kind words and advice.
Babystepswa great news on your scan, fantastic news!
Missbloggsy thanks so much for your helpful words. I really like your idea about finding out the sex of the baby, even though I don’t want to, my DH and both girls do want to, so I’m going to do it for them. I asked them last night (after reading your advice) whether they would like to know and they said yes and I said, well then lets find out and they were happy about that. I think it’s a great idea to let them choose a gender specific outfit after the gender scan. I’m going to give them some money to buy the baby a gift each as well.
Mum2Angus thanks for your advice, love your idea about buying a gift, I’m going to surprise them with a gift from ‘baby’ just before baby is born, with a card saying how much he/she would love to play with them and learn things from them etc. cute! Yar, DH and I both agree that it’s more the unknowing that is upsetting them and when they get to meet baby, it’ll be a different story. We do have them 100% of the time, always. We have both been reassuring them and supporting them which is important.
Bebehvala what is the nub test? I know the Chinese gender predictor is supposed to be pretty good.
Hope all is having a lovely weekend, it’s cooled down a bit here in Perth.
With light, Claire
12-02-2012 16:37 #490Junior Member
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- Jan 2012
I have not posted in ages but have been reading everyone’s posts- its great that it has been sent to my email.
Ok- well after all of the drama in the beginning- i am heading towards twelve weeks now. And the stress is lessening dramatically. Twins- Fraternal- Due date: C-section 14th August.
Im a westmead IVF person- but have decided to go to RPA. I was going to go private but decided to go public for all of my appts etc and see how things go.
Well thanks goodness I did.... because I have been there every weekday for the past two weeks. AND they have been fantastic, I could not have asked for better care (although some of the doctors lack people skills). I have visited the twins clinic, diabetes clinic and a range of specialists. I couldn’t even imagine the costs if I went private.
I have a pain condition- damage to perineal nerve- the pressure of the twin pregnancy now causing constant extreme pain. The pain clinic are seeing me on Tuesday- I am very grateful.
Anyway the only positive is that I had an extra ultrasound on Friday and It was so amazing to see bubs- they really have grown. (RPA have a great new ultrasound machine). Which is helpful to see as im gaining loads of weight which is depressing when my clothes don’t fit. Its funny sometimes I just forget im pregnant.
Nuchal Trans Scan tomorrow at 8am and am a little nervous, but not as bad as expected as Friday they were fine. I would really like to know what they are.
As im new to Sydney, I would like to meet other RPA IVF people... I always seem to be there lol.
Bebehvala- can you update me on the register please, thanks J I hope your NT Scan results come back ok.
Babystepswa- I am so glad that your 8 wk scan went well. Its such a nervous time. Good Luck
Missbloggsy- My stepchildren dont live with us- I see them very rarely- and am also thinking about how DH will tell them. Very tricky situation. Not likely to be positive- youngest 16 yrs. In your situation, with shared care, it makes the transition extra important. I have no advice but instead offer lots of support J
Qotfu: may I ask how you have found RPA? Will you stay public or transfer into a private ward? I guess we will be there at the same time.
Also- I found that while my medical care was good- I have gotten no information about the hospital at all- especially maternity services. But I havent seen a midwife only doctors. While the doctors treat the medical conditions- I just find that they dont have time for the little questions....
Have you had the NT scan yet? Or an amnio? (Sorry if you have already answered this I may have missed it in the thread).
Ange- Hows things- havent heard from you in a while.
Take Care , Grace
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