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    Quote Originally Posted by happy2bmum View Post
    I had severe depression when I was pregnant - couldn't get out of bed, wanted my DH to take the baby away when she was born, trouble eating etc and I was much better even when the labour started. I probably should have been in hospital when I was pregnant but was 1000 times better after the birth once the hormones settled.
    Me too! I could have written the exact same post! That is not to say that I'm discouraging hospitalisation, and think it is fantastic that your mood is already being monitored.

    As mentioned earlier, I was hospitalised in a general acute psychiatric ward for five weeks, (RPA- Missenden Psychiatric Unit) and did not see my DD for the first two weeks. After that, I was gradually exposed to her daily. First only for an hour, then over a couple of hours. Eventually I had her staying overnight (I had a private room with my own bathroom, and was not allowed to be alone with my DD), and I also got overnight leave to see if I could cope going home over night. This gradual exposure worked really well for me, and TBH, I don't know if I would have coped having to look after her in the ward during those initial weeks. I was severly unwell, on the verge of suicide. I needed some distance and time to process what was happening to me. But that being said, I think a mum-bub unit sound pretty great, as staff is specialised in perinatal depression/psychosis.

    Everyone's experience is different, but I had such a positive hositalisation. Staff and patients were amazing, and it completely changed my life. Particularly since I had been on the other side of the "fence" as a social worker in a psychiatric unit, and got to appreciate the experience from a patient's POV.

    I wish you all the best, and will think about you. Please PM me if you feel the need to.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bluerhapsody View Post
    Thanks bundymummy. I felt a bit embarrassed posting a thread like this...
    Then you are very brave to do so, to you
    I can't help with your specific q but some more experienced mums have given you good advice and i just wanted to wish you all the best in the next few weeks

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    Can I also mention bluerhapsody, that if you felt up to it, you should write a complaint to the unit you stayed in regarding the nurse who was so horrible to you. It is unethical that she/he should be forcing their personal views on you, especially while you are so vulnerable. The nurse is employed to care for you, not to have an opinion on your situation. Those comments could have had a detrimental effect on you, and by the sounds of it, have actually affected you pretty badly.
    I am a nurse, and just want you to know that letters of complaint are dealt with seriously and not fobbed off. The unit would not want these issues persevering in their unit.
    Of course - I would understand if you just want to ignore this though.

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    I can't believe what they said to you when you were first pregnant.
    I had severe PND with baby number 2 and even overdosed twice, felt I was a bad mother and did not want to deal with my children , they never considered taking my children from me. I did receive a lot of support from family and various services. Unfortunately 51/2 years ago there was only one very small mother and baby unit in Perth so for all of my admissions to public and private facilities I was admitted by myself and my hubby and mother had to look after my children, I think a mother and baby unit would have been awesome looking back at it although at the time I was unfortunately not worried about my kids due to the illness. You may not even need the admission. For each of my subsequent children I was extremly worried about a recurrence of PND and I was offered a back up of a mother and baby unit if I needed it. Luckily I have been fine with my youngest 2 now 2 and 7 months (they are only 17 mths apart which was a scary thought for me) as I stayed on my medications and had heaps of support around me.
    Hope it all works out well for you in the next couple of weeks. Take care

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    Quote Originally Posted by moongazer View Post
    Can I also mention bluerhapsody, that if you felt up to it, you should write a complaint to the unit you stayed in regarding the nurse who was so horrible to you. It is unethical that she/he should be forcing their personal views on you, especially while you are so vulnerable. The nurse is employed to care for you, not to have an opinion on your situation. Those comments could have had a detrimental effect on you, and by the sounds of it, have actually affected you pretty badly.
    I am a nurse, and just want you to know that letters of complaint are dealt with seriously and not fobbed off. The unit would not want these issues persevering in their unit.
    Of course - I would understand if you just want to ignore this though.
    Thanks again to everyone for your warm words.

    moongazer- I had considered writing a complaint to the unit, however it was a few months back now and I would feel a bit silly doing it so late in the piece.

    They were pretty useless there as a whole and I sort of just put it down to the fact that they hadn't dealt with a pregnant woman before and were out of familiar territory. I did have needs which deviated from the norm, which meant that I fell through the cracks a bit.

    The most "help" I got while I was there was a social worker who got a pamphlet for me on 'teen pregnancy' and continuing high school with a baby...... I'm 23! Haha... bizarre

    It seems a shame to me that every service I have tried to contact so far really doesn't know what to do with a woman who's experiencing perinatal depression... all of the services, support and advice out there are geared towards post-natal depression... for the most part I've been told that, unfortunately there isn't a lot that I can do until AFTER I've had the baby... so it's been several months of waiting.

    Even the BeyondBlue website has info on PPD, but nothing on depression during pregnancy... which I think is just so odd, since statistically they're both quite common...

    I am still hoping that things pick-up after bubs arrived, but just wanted to hear of other peoples' experiences... wanted to know that there's hope out there if it comes down to an IP stay.

    It's also comforting to hear that there are mums out there who suffered depression during the pregnancy, but that it cleared-up afterward.

    xoxo

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    Hi,
    Over the years I have had many work clients who have spent time with their LO's in IP mum and bub units. I have only had positive reports and all the mum's were rapt with the amount of support they received from staff and other mums. The fears you speak about are really normal and common and they will most likely address these if you do require a stay in an IP unit. Also you could call and speak to the social worker beforehand if you know the place you may be going. They often have an info pack that they can send you.

    You may like to look here: http://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au/...depression.cfm

    Good luck!

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    Op in regional Vic we have a few "raphael house" centers which deal with pre and post natal depression. The manager of one told me the earlier they can see you the better. They are not inpatient but provide lots of services and a collective approach. Worth looking for...


 

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